Hmmm... honestly I'd react that same way: you two did share intimacy for 2+ yrs, the LEAST he could've done was let you know there was someone else he was interested in pursuing... but he didn't: he just disappeared and you were hurt because he gave no warning/ reason to just drop out of your life. A friend is a friend, first and foremost.
I'm sure he felt awkward about talking about a woman with you, but if you DO become FWB again, make it clear what you expect from him should he find someone else to date. It's not gonna hurt your feelings if he starts dating someone else, but it WILL hurt your feelings if he suddenly just disappears again.
As for the current situation, it DOES sound like he's fishing for you to ask and I LOVE how you're playing dumb about it. Let him be the one to talk about what's going on, no dragging it out of him.
And the 2 week guy? I guess it won't be a loss if you don't hear from him...
But I wonder how your hot young stud boy toy is doing? Heard from him?
(This HUGE pic is driving me insane, btw, lol - HELLLOOOOOOOOO?????????)
Anyway, good. Im glad you are on the same page as the LB thing. & exactly. IF we ever went back to a FWB, i would make sure he will work for it, lol - AND tell him I wasnt peeved about his relationship, just that he never clued me in at all. Not fair!
YBB ... I do, like you said, think he's in his man cave - dealing with his issues ... feelings ... whatever. I heard from him once since, but then again, usually he contacts me (i rarely do him) 1-2 X a month ... so i
i have to agree with Al on this one. He's fishing for you to ask. Remember that you two were friends first and I think he feels that comes before anything else. I'm not saying that he shouldn't have told you about new girl, but if you all set up the FWB thing ahead of getting inimate then that door for him to date other people is wide open. I'm not trying to be mean, I think that's just the reality of the situation.
If you care about him and are his friend ask him how he's feeling and why. I'm sure he isn't thinking past his own stuff and really needs someone to talk to.
You know, I completely understand your apprehension. You are supposed to be friends first and foremost and you are a little bit miffed that he did not tell you forthright that he met someone. So why should you be the one to open the door for him now that he is having problems.
However, that said, when it comes to friendships sometimes we need to let go and forgive a minor screw up (as long as they are not habitual). If he is your friend and he really needs you, be open. The question really is how strong and important is the friendship?
Actually, we WERENT great freinds prior. At all. I mean we KNEW eachother for 20 yrs. We were accquaintences. Its not like we invited eachother to parties & stuff.
Playing dumb is good but it is also good that if he opens that door again you'll inquire. It'll show you care and he's dying to tell you. I understand why you haven't. the way he left things was majorly screwed up and I'd have been a little peeved too.
Hmmm... honestly I'd react that same way: you two did share intimacy for 2+ yrs, the LEAST he could've done was let you know there was someone else he was interested in pursuing... but he didn't: he just disappeared and you were hurt because he gave no warning/ reason to just drop out of your life. A friend is a friend, first and foremost.
I'm sure he felt awkward about talking about a woman with you, but if you DO become FWB again, make it clear what you expect from him should he find someone else to date. It's not gonna hurt your feelings if he starts dating someone else, but it WILL hurt your feelings if he suddenly just disappears again.
As for the current situation, it DOES sound like he's fishing for you to ask and I LOVE how you're playing dumb about it. Let him be the one to talk about what's going on, no dragging it out of him.
And the 2 week guy? I guess it won't be a loss if you don't hear from him...
But I wonder how your hot young stud boy toy is doing? Heard from him?
(This HUGE pic is driving me insane, btw, lol - HELLLOOOOOOOOO?????????)
Anyway, good. Im glad you are on the same page as the LB thing. & exactly. IF we ever went back to a FWB, i would make sure he will work for it, lol - AND tell him I wasnt peeved about his relationship, just that he never clued me in at all. Not fair!
YBB ... I do, like you said, think he's in his man cave - dealing with his issues ... feelings ... whatever. I heard from him once since, but then again, usually he contacts me (i rarely do him) 1-2 X a month ... so i
i have to agree with Al on this one. He's fishing for you to ask. Remember that you two were friends first and I think he feels that comes before anything else. I'm not saying that he shouldn't have told you about new girl, but if you all set up the FWB thing ahead of getting inimate then that door for him to date other people is wide open. I'm not trying to be mean, I think that's just the reality of the situation.
If you care about him and are his friend ask him how he's feeling and why. I'm sure he isn't thinking past his own stuff and really needs someone to talk to.
JL
You know, I completely understand your apprehension. You are supposed to be friends first and foremost and you are a little bit miffed that he did not tell you forthright that he met someone. So why should you be the one to open the door for him now that he is having problems.
However, that said, when it comes to friendships sometimes we need to let go and forgive a minor screw up (as long as they are not habitual). If he is your friend and he really needs you, be open. The question really is how strong and important is the friendship?
Actually, we WERENT great freinds prior. At all. I mean we KNEW eachother for 20 yrs. We were accquaintences. Its not like we invited eachother to parties & stuff.