i hate moody moments

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Registered: 03-25-2002
i hate moody moments
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Fri, 12-12-2008 - 9:13pm

Hello Ladies... gosh i hate this mood i'm in :(


if i can just get thru this without doing anything stupid.... like calling MM for validation. I KNOW he's not the one to get my validation from.. which is why i'm posting here... MM mentioned his company holiday dinner was tonight. and for some strange reason i'm having paranoid thoughts that he brought a date.


I've been waiting for the right time and time frame to mention to him or ask if he's still seeing others... and tonight i just started thinking how i would feel if his answer was "yes, i'm still dating others"... we see a lot of each other. he says the sweetest things. he pays for all the dates. In fact, he just paid for the holiday party dinner tomorrow night. So, i shouldn't be feeling the way that i am tonight.. BUT.. i am...


for some reason i'm feeling like if he wanted to dump me it would be after the holidays so i'm having these really stupid and irrational fears about that... on the one hand, i dont' feel like he's given me any reason to think this.. so perhaps it's just PMS or something.. Or that darn full moon.


Gosh, i normally feel so strong and confident. I dont want to do something stupid or clingy right now... I hear from him every morning, noon and night.... like i said, i don't think i have any rational reason to be feeling insecure except that we haven't had the "talk" yet. But it's way too soon for that anyway. Last night i met him for dinner and i felt fine. Felt like i may not know where things are going but he's a great guy to have in my life so all is fine.


aye ye ye.. it's hard being me sometimes.


Loonybunny

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Fri, 12-12-2008 - 9:40pm

I think it's tough when we don't have the same freedoms as other people. And probably too much time to think or feel sorry for ourselves.

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Registered: 03-19-2008
Fri, 12-12-2008 - 9:46pm

Ah Loony,


You dont need the validation from us. You need it from him. You need to know where you stand and I think you have a right to know where you stand. Could it be that the time has come to have to exclusive talk?


I initiated the talk with EMT and I am glad I did. I did it to make sure I wasnt sleeping with someone who was seeing others, because if he was I wouldnt have slept with him.


So I dont think there is anything wrong with you asking where you stand with him. He might be wondering the same thing with you but is too afraid to ask.


Laurie

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Fri, 12-12-2008 - 10:18pm

thanks for the support and helping me get out of my own head for a moment.


exhaling... MM sent me an email at around 9:45... that pretty much indicates that he didn't bring a date.. lol...


this much we know about MM.. he is a slow mover and very patient. We've been seeing each other fairly seriously for about 6 weeks. One side of my head says, take it slow things are going great. the other (crazy) side wants to know NOW NOW NOW.


i think i've learned to let my crazy brain do it's thing but ignore it. Phew.... hope the mood passes quickly.


Loonybunny

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Fri, 12-12-2008 - 10:48pm

LOL! I wish I had a free weekend every 12 days! I have my kids 24/7 --and people wonder why I dont date!


Oh well, only a few more years, then I have "my life" back except I have no clue what I'll do with it.....

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Fri, 12-12-2008 - 11:56pm
Well, the next time he asks you to "ask me anything"... I think that would be a good time to ask, "are we exclusive?"
Winter Alison

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Sat, 12-13-2008 - 8:47am

Yep, it was nice while it lasted. But like I said, he bailed on this weekend (his weekend) for no real reason other than not committing to a time on Friday night despite me asking 2 times. Then the kids and I leave for the holiday break

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Sat, 12-13-2008 - 11:40am

i know what it's like to have kids 24/7.... that's pretty much my situtation. I've put weekend / going-out sitter as a priority in my budget. Yes, it gets expensive but when the