My Update

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Registered: 08-16-2005
My Update
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Sat, 12-13-2008 - 11:15pm

I know I really don't post often here, but I do read often...I've been wanting to write for a while and finally here I am! QUick update...single for 2 years, divorced for a year and a half. Since then I've had a lot of first dates and nothing more than casual. To make new friends and have more social opportunities for the kids and I (5yr old twins) I joined a single parents meetup group last summer. It's been such a great way for me to make new friends, the kids to make friends and to have more of a social life! Well, I met T at an event in August. I was immediately attracted to him but shy. I flirted with him, but honestly I thought he was involved with another girl in the group. Over the next month or so we would chat and flirt on facebook...come to find out the girl I THOUGHT he was with was after him but he was not interested. He was interested in ME! Finally in the beginning of Oct he asked me out and it's been a whirlwind ever since! Things have moved very quickly but even writing this, I have a hard time expressing how happy I am with him! He lives just under an hour away and is a very active dad to his 5yr old daughter so seeing each other can be a challange sometimes. Despite this we have consistently been able to see each other about twice a week. We each have met the children and the kids have met as well. I probably would not have gotten the kids involved so early but we do belong to this group and were avoiding kid activities for this reason. It didn't make sense so we made the plunge and it couldn't have gone better!! My kids know him as my friend and a special friend. They love when he spends time here and seem to feel very comfortable with him, letting him read them stories, play games, watch tv, etc. When he was here last week my daughter gave him a hug when he left and said "you're fun!" My kids have a dad who is thankfully very active in their lives who loves them very much, but it's nice to see this added element is fitting in well. So far. (not for my ex, but that's for a different thread) We've had the kids together a few times. The first time my daughter was a little jealous but I talked to her about it and she was fine...sharing her toys, going off and doing girl stuff. It was really cute! Everything about this man is amazing! He works so hard to make me happy and understands the little things that count! Only about 3 weeks into the relationship he told me that he loved me. I was speechless but after a while I began to say it back to him. I can honestly say I love this man!! I don't know what will come of our relationship but right now, I can't imagine my life without him! We can get dressed up fancy and go out, stay in and make pizzas, get down and dirty with the kids or spend the day in bed and I'm always smiling!! It is so nice to be relaxed in a relationship that is 50/50...or more like 100/100! My marriage was all me giving and him taking. T and I have a good give and take down and it's obvious to each of us how much we appreciate each other. He was here last night and today and was sick most of the time. When he got home he sent me an email apologizing for not being himself and thanking me for taking such good care of him, telling me how thoughtful and caring I was and showing him more reasons why he loves me so much.

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Registered: 10-19-2008
In reply to: zacknsarahsmom
Sun, 12-14-2008 - 8:28am

Wow, that sounds amazing! You give me hope.


Lisa

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Registered: 08-16-2005
In reply to: zacknsarahsmom
Sun, 12-14-2008 - 6:00pm

Thanks Lisa!! I questioned it too...but there is always hope!


Karie

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Registered: 03-15-2004
In reply to: zacknsarahsmom
Sun, 12-14-2008 - 11:36pm

Wow! What a GREAT story! SO happy for you! & nice to see you here on our board!

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Registered: 09-11-2007
In reply to: zacknsarahsmom
Mon, 12-15-2008 - 1:04pm

Good for you, Karie!!!

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Registered: 08-16-2005
In reply to: zacknsarahsmom
Mon, 12-15-2008 - 2:09pm

Thank you everyone! I know

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Registered: 08-28-2008
In reply to: zacknsarahsmom
Mon, 12-15-2008 - 4:54pm

What a great update, Karie!!


SO happy that you found a great man who seems genuine and perfect. I love how you said (..I'm paraphrasing) that

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Registered: 08-16-2005
In reply to: zacknsarahsmom
Mon, 12-15-2008 - 5:13pm

I hope this works, but here is a picture of T.


Karie

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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: zacknsarahsmom
Mon, 12-15-2008 - 7:11pm
Oh yeah.........he IS a cutie and what a wondeful story.
 
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Registered: 07-14-2007
In reply to: zacknsarahsmom
Mon, 12-15-2008 - 8:02pm
Oh he is cute!!! It sounds like even though it is moving fast it is pretty good.
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Registered: 08-16-2005
In reply to: zacknsarahsmom
Tue, 12-16-2008 - 11:20am

Thanks!