How do I read this?

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-06-2008
How do I read this?
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Tue, 12-16-2008 - 8:10am

So I have been seeing someone since before Thanksgiving, about two or three times a week. Daily texts, phone calls just about every day. Met some of his friends. LOTS of talking about everything, lots of laughter. This is a person I would NEVER have met IRL because he is SO different from me in terms of politics, hobbies...but somehow we can't stop talking.

Anyway, last night as we were watching TV he told me that the night before he had a few drinks with an ex. Then she wanted to go back to his place and he told her no, that wasn't going to happen. He told me he felt weird about the situation.

What I can't figure out is why he told me this. He told me they had been together and broken up many times, so now I can't figure out if this was his way of telling me he isn't seeing anyone else anymore or if I am the "temp" until they get back together. Yeesh.

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-20-2007
Tue, 12-16-2008 - 9:40am

He is a guy.

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 12-16-2008 - 10:05am
Well you just don't know.
 
iVillage Member
Registered: 08-28-2008
Tue, 12-16-2008 - 12:19pm

My first reaction to that was caution. As if he's sort of telling you that the ex is a factor, seems be a slippery slope for him. If my guy told me that I would see warning lights. But that does not mean that is what your guy is saying.


I think you might want to ask him, without coming off as blaming or insecure, just casually talk to him next time you have drinks or dinner or are together. (in person). If I was you I would jsut say something like you are curious about his ex. How often does he talk with her or get together for drinks.


Are you exlusive with this guy? If so (or if it has become physical) I feel you have right to want to be sure he is over the ex.


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