Is anyone not having more children?
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Is anyone not having more children?
| Tue, 12-16-2008 - 4:03pm |
Hello Ladies,
I am 29 and the men that I meet are usually childfree.
| Tue, 12-16-2008 - 4:03pm |
Hello Ladies,
I am 29 and the men that I meet are usually childfree.
Hi and welcome-
I think there is a major advantage to dating men who already have children. Then there is not such an urgency to begin a family. They just seem to understand everything much more than men without kids when it comes to single parents and dating.
Personally, I'm close to 40 and although I would not mind having another child, I don't foresee that. My bf had a vastectomy years ago. And I'm fine with that. Even though he did say that had would have loved to have kids with me.
I think if you seek out men who are already single parents you'll be happier and more successful finding someone who is compatible to your future outlook of not having more children.
I'm in the same boat- I don't want more children. Luckily the man I'm dating never wanted his "own" kids, and is ok with my ds- more fun at 9 than they are as babies :)
I think the best thing is to be upfront about it to the men you're dating that you're not looking for more children.
Anna
Anna
Could you see me waving my hand in the air from where you are??? I am 44 yrs old, with a DS18 almost 19, and a DD16. I made the decision 16 yrs ago of NO MORE KIDS! I have been dating CM for 1.75yrs and he was on the fence about more kids when we met, but is totally fine without having more. Between us we have 4, the 2 youngest being 16. I just can't see myself starting over at this point! Although my dr thought he could make kids happen for me if I had a compelling reason to want more.
As for how to tell someone you dont want anymore kids?? I did OLD when I met CM, and that was a part of my profile. I had indicated that NO, I didnt want anymore kids. Obviously if you meet someone at a party, you probably dont want to get into a discussion of having kids, but as you progress in dating, I think it should be brought up and made known. Especially if one or both has strong feelings one way or another. By the time you get to be my age, most men either have kids or don't want them anymore.
Good Luck, and remember, the most important thing is to keep the lines of communication open!
~b~
" By the time you get to be my age, most men either have kids or don't want them anymore."
My fiancee is 46 and he told me the other day that up until about a year ago he thought for sure he was going to grow old completely alone. He has also said that if I didn't want (more) children so badly he'd be happy to not have any. So in my experience it is true that there are men out there who don't want (more) kids - you just have to find them.
No more kids for me!!!!
Jenn ~~~ mom to Ashley & Elliott ~~~
I don't want more children.