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Thu, 12-18-2008 - 10:14pm

that I just want him to call!!! I am talking about single Dad from Sunday night. I don't want him to turn out to be a dud but I realize it is very likely. Yuck!! This is the bad part of dating.

On the good side I do have other prospects. I think I was just pretty sure in the back of my head that he was pretty interested. Darn!!!

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Thu, 12-18-2008 - 10:15pm
So why not call him?
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Thu, 12-18-2008 - 10:20pm
Agreed - call him! The worst thing he can do basically is say no.
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Registered: 07-14-2007
Thu, 12-18-2008 - 10:21pm
because I want to see if he will step up. :( Darn it...I liked it so much better before the issues of this week.
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Registered: 11-22-2006
Thu, 12-18-2008 - 10:33pm

I know I am being a hard a$$ a little bit here but I dont think you should call him. He was the guy from the first date right? Or am I confused?
If so, he was supposed to follow through to plan date number two and he didnt step up. So after you emailed and called him out on it he apologized and said he didnt mean to disappoint and the hope is he wont make that mistake again, correct? Then technically you cant save his butt by calling him first - if it is an important trait for you to have in a mate - someone who truly does what they say they will and doesnt just make do later, then you need to give him a chance to show you he can do just that.
It s kind of like my friend who has a hubbie who never remembers important dates unless she helps remind him. I know she would give a lot to have one of these birthdays or anniversaries hit and for him to surprise her with no prompting but she cant quite be brave enough to give him that chance. She is so afraid of disappointment, she always tips him off just to make sure nothing bad happens. Of course they are married so to me it is a different dynamic.
For you though, the disappointment will be temporary and you WILL find someone who meets your needs and is hoping to meet you right this second. I am rooting for you to hold out on that one and let the chips fall where they will with the contenders so you meet Prince Charming sooner rather than later. If you help this guy and really he doesnt cut it, you are only delaying the inevitable and wasting time and I dont want that for you!!
Just my two cents.
Like I said in my other post - NOW is when he should be on his absolute best behavior.....I think that says a lot.

OK now I hope I have the right one. I know it was candyland recently. I could be lost! lol

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Thu, 12-18-2008 - 11:17pm

Believe me...I have no intention of calling him first. I am just a little hopeful that he will step up and not be a total dud

P.S. It is still candyland so I will be ok regardless. ;D




Edited 12/18/2008 11:18 pm ET by msmsavannah
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Fri, 12-19-2008 - 6:52am

I agree with City. From what I remember you ALREADY gave him a nudge.

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Fri, 12-19-2008 - 6:58am
I hope he calls for you.. but if not, there's PLENTY other men out there!! (Something every woman likes to hear, huh? Or not.) But really, I do hope things work out and he steps up. I don't think you should give him anymore nudges, though. Let him do it. And if he doesn't, totally his loss.
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Fri, 12-19-2008 - 8:04am
I agree with City too!!
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Fri, 12-19-2008 - 9:46am

ITA, Isys!!!

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Registered: 07-14-2007
Fri, 12-19-2008 - 10:06am

I did get an email but I don't think it was good enough. It was talking about working late hours still and not much more. I had a feeling I would hear from him yesterday but this just didn't cut it for me. I think I am done with this one. But it was a good first date!

I have a meet lined up for Sunday and a couple more that may need to wait until after Christmas (too much going on this time of year)

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