My relationship's over

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My relationship's over
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Wed, 04-19-2006 - 9:09am

Yep, that's right, it's over. Why? Because SO just happened to decide to browse the taboos site the other night and read all the stuff in my last torch - including the explicit details of my sexual past. Why he decided to do that, I don't know.

As far as he's concerned, I was in a relationship with him, and I shouldn't have even been thinking about my past at all. And on top of that I shouldn't have been posting the details on the internet - especially on a messageboard where people know my first name, age, and location, among other things about me.

You win some, you lose some I guess.

 


 


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Wed, 04-19-2006 - 9:13am
WHOA


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Wed, 04-19-2006 - 9:17am
Yeah. I asked him why he was still sleeping in my bed every night if it bothered him that much, and he got up, packed all his stuff and walked out. He wants me to return anything he left behind. I went after him in my car, but he wouldn't even accept a ride home (it's 1.16am here right now).

 


 


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Wed, 04-19-2006 - 9:21am
Oh Jan, I am so sorry to hear this, I just don't know what to say.....everything sounds so trite and overused.


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Wed, 04-19-2006 - 9:23am
this level of jealousy, insecurity or even conservative approach to a relationship (relative to your personality) in your SO would have likely reared its head more and more in the future any way...better to cut your losses now. I remember being insecure at one time in relationships...its a vicious cycle for both. I was able to totally break it and what a difference. But many can't.
Better things to come for you.
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Wed, 04-19-2006 - 9:30am

Jan, I am so sorry. In some ways you sound like me and your SO sounds like my DH. At times his personality is a great thing, he really keeps me grounded. At others I feel suffocated especially after having kids. There are times I feel so suufocated. There are many aspects of myself that have to stay buried to keep the peace. It can be draining at times.


I hope whatever the outcome, you are content with it, whether that be working it out or moving on. Please keep us posted. Hugs.

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Wed, 04-19-2006 - 9:35am

I've known for the past few days that something was up, he was only talking to me if he had to, smiling when the cat was around and not when I was, txting other people. I was walking around not knowing what to say to him. I figured seeing as he was still here 24/7 (he has his own place, but is never there) that it can't have been too big a deal.

It was when I told him that I was going away to see my best friend for three days next week because she will be home from Australia, and it didn't even get a verbal response from him that I knew something was seriously wrong. It was like he didn't care.

I brought it up and he told me it didn't matter. That's when I brought up his behaviour over the last few days, and said that apparently it did matter. I couldn't sit around waiting for it to blow over any more, because it just wasn't, and I was getting really down in the dumps about how he was treating me. Then BOOM, disaster struck.

Ugh, men!

 


 


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Wed, 04-19-2006 - 9:39am
well, just remember, we're here....and you're still a kinky girl and we need you on the board!


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Wed, 04-19-2006 - 9:43am

I had that situation with my ex, who I was in a relationship for four years. He was incredibly draining at times when it came to relationship issues. Friendship side of things, I could always count on him to be there when I needed him.

I knew SO had some insecurity issues. But I didn't EVER think he would read the taboos board. Occasionally I would share something I found interesting, but that was as far as it went. WTH suddenly possessed him to "browse" back a month to my torch postings, I have no idea.

He's online, apparently he's thinking about what just happened. At least he's talking to me. Who knows, maybe there is still a chance....

 


 


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Wed, 04-19-2006 - 9:46am
I am curious, did he know of some of your past exploits before, or was it all news to him???


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Wed, 04-19-2006 - 9:47am
I agree with Talbed on this but I know it still hurt no matter what! BIG HUGS for you and somone is out there who will love you for who you are and who you have been!!

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