The best sex advice comes from...

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The best sex advice comes from...
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Wed, 04-19-2006 - 12:09pm

The best sex advice comes from...



  • Friends
  • Lovers
  • The internet
  • All of the above
  • other (explain)


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Registered: 03-17-2006
Wed, 04-19-2006 - 12:24pm
I found that lovers give the best advice since everyone likes something different. If you can get them to open up and tell you what feels good and what they want then it's the best advice you can get.
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Wed, 04-19-2006 - 12:37pm
I tend to agree, though I get good advice here on Taboos and on the rare occasion have some good advice myself! :)


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Registered: 03-19-2003
Wed, 04-19-2006 - 3:26pm

So far, nobody's voted for friends.

 

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Registered: 09-25-2003
Wed, 04-19-2006 - 3:54pm
I voted all of the above, but if I were to weight it...most of my knowledge has come from friends (on-line mostly). I have found that my DW will take whatever I offer up. I have gotten the question occassionally..."so, where in the world did you pick up that new technique?!! Not that I am complaining!" She has not told me one thing she would want...just the things she does not want...a form of advice I guess.
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Wed, 04-19-2006 - 8:14pm

I voted all of the above, but weighted, mostly from the internet, or from here! I have a lot of friends IRL with little or no experience, and those that do live quite a long way away from me.

For example, late last year one of my best friends had a cosmo that had all these sex tips in it (around 80 or so) for driving men wild. They were very basic things, and I didn't learn anything new, but they found them really helpful lol.

I have gained some knowledge from my lovers (the ones that had more experience than me, that is).

 


 


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Registered: 05-28-2003
Thu, 04-20-2006 - 12:37am
The best sex advice comes from, or rather, came from, "Chef." But now he's gone, and I don't know what to do with the ladies anymore. I just put "Shaft" on the turntable, turn the lights down low, and hope for the best . . .
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Thu, 04-20-2006 - 9:56am

He's a bad mother-


shut your moth!


I'm just talkin' about SHAFT!


;P



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Registered: 01-23-2006
Thu, 04-20-2006 - 11:34am

I've got to say other on this one. Although the selections of friends, lovers and internet are a great asset.

My belief is that sex advice comes from education on Human Sexuality(not just sex). To truly know what people now and before enjoyed and why. To learn about the physical changes to the body during sex and why and how this happens. To understand how our society changes our beliefs in what is "normal" and thus making things normal taboo. For example in the past there is evidence that male to male sex was accepted and at times expected. You would be ostrasized only if you did not eventually take a wife and produce children. Most men did this but continued on with male to male sex. Then it became taboo in all aspects to even show an interest in the same sex, so it became taboo and hidden. Now gays/lesbians are fighting to be accepted and understood again.

Once someone is educated they can be self-confidant to explore their own sexuality and to be willing to try new things without the stigma of "this is taboo, I can't do that, even if I may like it". When you get to this place then getting ideas from others is a great place to go. Also, when you know what you want or want to try you are capable to express this to your lovers and know that if they are creeped out by it or unwilling to listen they may not be the person for you.