Ladies , This Ones For Ya ?

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Registered: 11-13-2005
Ladies , This Ones For Ya ?
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Thu, 04-27-2006 - 12:31am
Have you ever look at the same sex? Let me tell ya what happened to me .
I find myself looking at the same sex alot. I am married and I am unhappy to a degree, I am shy to the whole thing ,but at the same time I am not. Its really werid. I never realized until the other day just how beautiful women really are. I am not kiddin ya . I saw this lady the other day who was beautiful. I think that I am tired of guys becase I have always had bad relationships. She was a red head with long hair and tan skin, curvy body and nice other things as well. ( You get the pic.) so , what should I do? this is something that has really got me on the edge

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Registered: 04-21-2006
Thu, 04-27-2006 - 12:59am

...well, I really do not know why it is but it does happen...curiosity perhaps?
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Registered: 10-14-2003
Thu, 04-27-2006 - 9:18am

Well, what do you want to do?

Sexuality is an aspect of ourselves that is always changing- sometimes quickly, sometimes slowly, but as we grow and evolve, our interests can change a bit too.

As far as looking at women, YES, I do. I've always been exceptionally shy about it too- I would never want to get caught looking at a woman's legs or whatever. I was always curious about being with a woman, but didn't act on it until last year. I have an incredibly beautiful girlfriend now, and this relationship has changed my life and my marriage.

But understand that my marriage was very sound to begin with- I was NOT unhappy to any degree before we got involved with her.

What concerns me about your situation is that your marriage is already unhappy, so you run the risk of hurting your marriage if you pursue this much further at this point. My advice to you would be to work on your marriage... figure out what is making you unhappy, and try to fix it. Talk to your husband and get him to talk to you... be partners in making your marriage happy. And if you guys end up wanting to explore women on the side, you can do so with a sound marital base. Or, if you are not willing or able to make your marriage more sound and secure, then end your marriage and move on. :-)

But yes, women are beautiful and soft and so.... yummmmm. My relationship with my girl is so intense though, that if my marriage were rocky at all to begin with, it would not have survived the first few months of having a girlfriend.


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Registered: 12-19-2002
Thu, 04-27-2006 - 2:02pm

Hi Hailey,


Finding women attractive is one thing, but relationships and troubles are an entirely different thing.

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Registered: 11-13-2005
Thu, 04-27-2006 - 11:32pm
I am defintely wanting to , again. ( In High School)
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Registered: 11-13-2005
Thu, 04-27-2006 - 11:38pm

yes you are right. But,I am here to tell ya nothing makes me squirm as much as seeing some sexy lady in plain veiw ,never hurts to do some wishful thinking. AFter all, IT helps me alot. But, I totally agree with ya on that. My hubby on the other hand is a differnt story. We love each other but I think I wanna do more in the bed than he wants and this is for certain. So I guess I will just keep on dreamin. I am glad to see you so happy though. That helps alot in a marriage.

hailey

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Registered: 03-19-2003
Thu, 04-27-2006 - 11:56pm

Welcome to the board, Hailey.

 

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Registered: 04-21-2006
Fri, 04-28-2006 - 8:48am
I think it is perfectly normal to be aroused by other women, but I don't think that means you have to or want to have sex with them. I have always been more aroused by looking at sexy pictures of women, than of men, like Playboy turns me on, but a magazine about men does not, but I have no interest in having a girl on girl relationship. Maybe you can use your attraction to get you excited and transfer that emotion to your relationship with your husband.
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Registered: 11-13-2005
Fri, 04-28-2006 - 9:26am

He gets really offensive . He is totally againist it.

hailey

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Registered: 11-13-2005
Fri, 04-28-2006 - 9:37am

I am the same way about sexy pictures of women and stuff and I do have sex with my husband, I just don't enjoy it and I haven't for a while now . I have tired everthing in the book to help it but he is just not into making it better for the two of us, I am not gonna act on it but I think about it often and wonder if it is better than being so tense and stuff from not getting what I want out of bed.(Pleasure) It is really hard to understand I know. Sometimes,I don't understand myself. But, It is atleast worth thinking about I guess.

hailey

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Registered: 04-21-2006
Fri, 04-28-2006 - 12:52pm
I wish I had some answers for you. I don't understand men that have a wife that wants to have sex, and they don't. Unfortuneately, when they don't want to have sex with you, it's because of something or someone else. I had a husband like that and found out that my competition was alcohol, so he lives somewhere else now, and I have a fabulous new husband that loves to have sex, and cannot believe he has found someone that loves sex as much as he does. Because of my experience, I can't help but think that there is a reason he won't "come to the plate" so to speak, to be sure that you are satisfied. If you are really interested in your partner, you do whatever necessary to please them and for them to please you. Good luck.

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