Anal question
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| Wed, 05-03-2006 - 12:21pm |
I've really been very curious lately and really interested..but still a bit scared. I enjoy being played w/in that area...and it gets me really worked up..then other times it just hurts and isn't right. Last week bf messed around in that area and it got me all worked up. I know my dh and gf do it which i'm happy they do because i've never been able to provide him w/the opportunity.
My issue is I don't think I could do it with Dh..he hurts me putting it in the correct place (lol) He is a little large and i'm afraid it would be too painful. My bf is of average size and there is no pain during sex as it is w/dh..I'd love to try w/bf but i'm not sure.
Is there any advice you can give as to should I work myself up? Just jump right in? Anything?
I must admit this has been ruined for me for years when my exh who was very mean and hateful just shoved it in one night forcing me to. I've never wanted that experience again....
but I need to work past it and with my interest heightened.....
any advice?

My best advice is to take it slow. You control when and where, and how long. He may want to just shove it in, but you're the one that has to relax those muscles. Best way for us to do it early on was to do it on all 4's, and he's got to stay still, and you go back against him.
Sexuality.org has a lot of guides to help you with this. It's fun, enjoyable and who knows one of these days you may be able to take Dh!
lube, lube, and more lube!
You have to take things slow and make sure that all parts (finger or penis) that is trying to penetrate that area are heavily lubed up! Get some KY, Astroglide, or any other kind of lubrication and use it generously! Sometimes using a lubricated condom makes it a bit easier because it reduces the skin-to-skin friction...just make sure if you are using a condom you are not using oil-based lube!
And did I mention to use plenty of lube?
Great advice, everyone.
thanks for all the information everyone..very helpful!
I will let you know when and if I decide..
and when and if it happens!
Hi dolphin,
My H and I had never done it before with others, but when we were dating we started exploring anal
It sounds like he'd probably be okay with it, which is good!