This fantasy is killing me!!!

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Registered: 02-04-2005
This fantasy is killing me!!!
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Wed, 05-03-2006 - 10:17pm

I have had this fantasy lately...OK, so its been a few months! :P of being part of a threesome. And it doesn't have to be me and two gals as just me and another guy pleasing one woman would be fine. Of course, no contact between me and the other guy.

Its driving me nuts as I REALLY want to do it but alas, there is a slight hold up...shes called MY WIFE! :D I tried a few times asking if there is any guy she would ever want to ask to do this with us but she looked at me with that shocked\puzzled look like I was speaking Mandarian Chinese. I told her I was serious and if she ever wanted to invite a second guy (anyone she wanted) into the bedroom I would be totally OK with it. She just kind of shook her head and left the room...

Does that mean its not going to happen? :P

Too bad my neighbors aren't good-looking and looking for a second man...

TM

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Registered: 09-16-2003
Wed, 05-03-2006 - 11:12pm
well, if it's any consolation, you're not the only one here who will never live that fantasy!


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Registered: 02-04-2005
Wed, 05-03-2006 - 11:30pm

LM,

WAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAA! WAAAAAAAAAAAAA!!!! (crying)

Why does it have to be a fantasy???? (more crying)

But I think you're right. I wish all my damn guy friends were honest so I knew exactly how many of them have done a 3-way as they all say they have but I know some are lying. Yet, none of the gals I know said they ever have but I think they might be lying too...in a very good way...

OK, back to my crying..... WAAAAAAAAAAAAA! WAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAA!!!

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Registered: 09-21-2004
Wed, 05-03-2006 - 11:37pm
there there don't cry now.
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Registered: 01-16-2005
Thu, 05-04-2006 - 4:05am

Whoa ! you are approaching completely wrong! The best way to destroy a relationship with a threesome is forcing / pressuring / manipulating the other into it. If a threesome is going to be successful it needs to come from within the relationship and not an external force forcing it to happen. Now that you have given her the suggestion take a step back let her come to you with the next move. While you are waiting work on strengthening the relationship, romance her, make her feel important, and feel cheerished. Should you actually go through with it you will need some enduring qualities to pull you through it. Meaning, even with the best planning, excellent communication, and clearly defined boundries, stuff happens that can put a strain on a relationship. Such as jealousy, boundries being unintentionally crossed, or you find yourselves in a situation that neither one of you had anticipated. Without a strong foundation for a relationship those unplanned events can and do reak havoc on relationships.

My recommendation to you is this take the time, romance her, let her know how special she is, and then in six months to a year come back to see where she is at with it. When you do revisit it be preapred that she may never on to do it. Many fantasize about it, few actually do it, and very few actually participate in it on a regular basis.

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Registered: 02-28-2006
Thu, 05-04-2006 - 5:09am
Yeah, it sounds like it's probably not going to happen. Honestly, from what you've posted here, it doesn't sound like your marriage (and your sex life with DW) are on solid enough ground that introducing others right now would be the best idea anyway.
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Registered: 12-19-2002
Thu, 05-04-2006 - 3:42pm

Gotta agree with Steve.

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Registered: 02-04-2005
Thu, 05-04-2006 - 4:58pm

Maggie, Steve and all the rest.

Oh, I know... The odds of us having a threesome even with a guy are about as slim as me discovering gold in my backyard. I'm still hoping some hot neighbors move in next door some day and seduce the misses into something. Yeah, and I can pay them to do it with the gold I discover in the back yard! ;)

Its probably best some things remain fantasies but just the idea of the three way gets me excited almost instantly! Too bad mowing the lawn doens't do that to me or the yard might actually look nice? :P

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Registered: 02-28-2006
Thu, 05-04-2006 - 5:32pm
I have to tell you TM, just between us guys, that I actually had a FMF threesome once, a long time ago, and some things make better fantasies than they do reality.
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Thu, 05-04-2006 - 9:11pm

Bostonsteve,

No way!!! Lucky man you!

But I know you are right. I can see me either not being able to perform or "letting it go" about 5 minutes into it and the ladies having this look of dissappointment on their faces...

But the opportunity to at least try!!! :P

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Registered: 11-11-2004
Fri, 05-05-2006 - 7:50am

My husband tried this 3-some thingy. While it was highly erotic during....it actually ruined his first marriage. Sometimes fantasies should be left at just that. I know, I know, THAT, is not what you wanted to hear!

I have one of my own but I keep it inside my head, because I just don't trust that I could actually ever tell him and I feel.......whatever about it.

Betsy

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