Impotence = divorce??
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Impotence = divorce??
| Tue, 05-30-2006 - 3:53am |
Hi
I would be interested in knowing if women would seperate from their partners if they became impotent. Assume that it was incurable impotence that didnt respond to medication. The socially acceptable response would be that theres more to a relationship than sex, but I would like to know what females on the board really feel.
Im a guy, but if I were female, and in a marriage, I wouldnt leave him, but if he was my BF, I would. Thats just me.
Sammy

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Since dh is older than me, he worries that ED is in our future.
"I would be interested in knowing if women would seperate from their partners if they became impotent. Assume that it was incurable impotence that didnt respond to medication."
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I've been in a relationship where my partner had ED (he could get it up, but couldn't last long), and wouldn't admit that it was his problem.
I would be very unhappy that we couldn't be together that way anymore, but as long as we didn't let our sex life die just because of that I think we could stay happily married.
"I've been in a relationship where my partner had ED (he could get it up, but couldn't last long), and wouldn't admit that it was his problem."
Oh boy, does that sound familiar. I had a bf like that once, too, only rather than not admit it was his problem, he made like I was his problem, being too much in need of sex, me, that is, so he was intimidated. Ack! It was horrible, humiliating. Went soft every time he tried to penetrate. No good at oral either, or manual stimulation. He was a virgin, too.
Did it break us up? You bet it did, because it invaded everything else. He became whiny, always wanting to try, same results all the time, I was supposed to make him work and penetrate, only every time I tried, he went soft, so it was all my fault again. And he made it clear to me it was my fault. Finally I had enough and realised it was also becoming an emotionally abusive relationship.
The thing is, when a man can't function to penetrate, it's way different on his self-esteem than when you talk with him about it as something that might happen one day or the other. How he feels when he's potent, and it's an abstract notion, and how he feels when it is real, and no longer abstract, man, there's a world of difference between the two.
I hope none of you have to face this, because my self esteem as a woman took some direct hits.
The upside of it was that I had met someone who made it clear that I WAS all right, I wasn't the problem, I was hot, and it gave me the self esteem I needed to put an end to the other relationship.
Fortunatly we weren't married, so maybe my experience isn't what you wanted to know or were asking about.
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