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Bi wife wants husband bi also
| Tue, 05-30-2006 - 9:09am |
My wife has been bi most of her life. I knew this when we got married and have always encouraged her sexuality. Although we have had mfm and fmf threesomes she says she would like us to be with a bi couple. One of her girl friends husband is bi and she says she would love to see me with another man. Aparently the idea of my giving oral sex to another man is a great turn on for her. I have to admit this is tempting but I just don't know. She brought home his and hers butt plugs the other day that she wants us to play with together. I am certainly willing but she says this will better prepare me for anal penetration from a penis. I am somewhat curious but nervous about this whole idea. I was hoping someone in the message boards would be able to offer advice or insight.
Thanks.
Thanks.

Would you be interested in posting this over at the Bisexual Issues board, too? It's not quite as busy as this board, but we do have some bi men over there who may have insight for you.
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"In Civilization and Its Discontents, Freud argued that civilization is founded on the repression of instincts. It now seems clear that one of those instincts leads us away from monogamy. Whether we choose to follow, on the other hand, is up to us."

-Dr. David P. Barash and Dr. Judith Eve Lipton,
"The Myth of Monogamy"
Welcome to Taboos, Ken.
"I have to admit this is tempting but I just don't know."
Just go at your own pace, whatever that pace may be.
Only do this if you are completely comfortable with the idea, and want to do this for yourself and not your wife.
Also, if you decide to go ahead with this, I think you should arrange a meeting with the other couple, and discuss exactly what you would and wouldn't be prepared to do, and help to ease any concerns you have about things.
Good advice has already been posted, but her are my two bits.
Same sex contact between men, as Im sure you know, is much more taboo than between women. Many people who view sexual contact between even strictly heterosexual women as erotic and sensual would view the same intimacy between heterosexual men not only as wrong, but proof the men were not actually heterosexual but bisexual or homosexual.
Now, Im not getting into labels except for one important area, that is YOU.
From your post, I would deduce you are heterosexual but open minded and adventuresome enough to consider this. But of utmost importance is how you will emotionally respond to this situation, people can try to intellectualize their way past an obstacle only to find that emotionally they cant help the way they feel...
And so lies my concern for your situation. If you are heterosexual and consent to a bisexual encounter, will you FEEL like you have challenged and triumped over a prejudice, and the programming of your strictly animal brain by sharing intimacy even against your natural instict, or will you feel ashamed, even emasculated.
This is particularly a concern as I see your post for it did not include any mention of MUTUAL sexual pleasure. Rather, your wife was interested in seeing you please another man orally, and even prepare you to be penetrated anally as well.
These are questions you must answer for yourself, but Ill give you the answers I have for MYSELF. Im not faced with the imminent situation you are, but have had to consider the possibility. For myself, SHARING sexual pleasure with another male, to satisfy our own and our spouses curiousities, would be a challenge worth taking...we should be able to use our higher reasoning brain to overcome the programming of our lower animal brain,
especially when all we are doing is sharing intimacy and pleasure with another person we value.
But the circumstance in which it could happen would have to be one of much trust and commitment to everyone having a rewarding experience. If this is you, go for it, and I actually envy you. My wife is AGAINST this happening, while Id take the challenge.. But we both believe that a same sex male encounter is by far the most emotionally risky adventure weve considered, and not worth it.
Id be very interested to know how this turns out for you, whatever you decide to do. Glad you posted here, thanks.
Very closet bi-male here. You question is a major fantasy of mine. Started when I was a kid with friend of mine. He taught me how to masterbate and it progressed into Oral and then anal. Never finishing in each other. We would pull out and finish through masterbation. As I got older, single with out a girl friend, I answered an ad for a gay roommate. Got a tour of the house and then told him I was looking for a room, just looking for an experience. We had many together, have swallowed many times and enjoy the taste. First few times I swallowed, would end up gagging it up after leaving, not any more though. Would usully feel a little guilty after. I think what got me more interested was I would masterbate into my hand and then swallow my own (Married now, still do that). Have you ever done that? Try it , see what you think.
I don't really consider myself hetero/Homo/bi, I just get into getting someone off. Don't know if that makes sense.
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