Want to Try Anal Sex..

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Registered: 10-16-2005
Want to Try Anal Sex..
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Wed, 06-07-2006 - 4:34am
I've attempted anal sex before...well attempted isn't a word...more like FORCED. (My ex anally raped me numerous times, no matter how many times I said no...wonder why he's an ex..) And I hated it because it hurt so bad and I tore a couple of times.... well now I've met a sweet guy who wants to try it and so do I (consented). So I guess my question is.. how can i make sure it's pleasurable for me and for him? What do I need to do to make sure I don't experience horrible pain and such? Also..my ex was a dismal 5 inches whereas the new guy is 9!!...how can I adjust to a larger girth in my bum?
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Registered: 09-16-2003
Wed, 06-07-2006 - 7:23am

First, I am sorry that happened to you.



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Registered: 08-12-2002
Wed, 06-07-2006 - 7:46am

And, if you experience ANY pain at all, stop immediately, as this is your body's way of telling you that something isn't right.

 


 


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Registered: 08-12-2005
Wed, 06-07-2006 - 12:43pm

I have a very similar story..my ex did the same to me but only once...it was enough to scare me away..but lately i've been very curious and thinking about it..even playing around back there..i'm very close to completely giving myself in that way......

I don't really have any advice as i'm in the same boat as you..but let us know how it goes...I'd love to hear about it.

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Registered: 12-19-2002
Wed, 06-07-2006 - 1:04pm

"the new guy is 9!!...how can I adjust to a larger girth in my bum? "


Personally, it doesn't work out for me because my hubby is

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Registered: 06-08-2006
Sun, 06-11-2006 - 12:16pm
Hi. Firstly Penguinite. I`m really sorry to hear what he did to you! Hope you will have happy times with your new man. I agree wth the others. Take your time, he must be gentle, and use plenty of lube.
I have just posted on the other boards about anal. I found I started with anal masturbation, so I had total control over how many fingers, how deep they went, and any movement. I used and still do use a latex glove with lots of lube, and start with my middle finger. You have to put the tip of your finger in and stop, then when you relax, a little more. Keep going until its all in(Do it the same way when its your mans penis)
I found after a while I could take 2 fingers, then moved on to a rounded end hairbursh handle, then a dildo. It has made things so much easier, as I was ready for him. We both enjoy anal. It does give a nice sensation. I also still anally masturbate which is nice mixed with frontal and clitoral masturbation. I definately think its helps with things because you know how far to go and when you are ready for more.
Hope you enjoy it. All the best
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Registered: 07-16-2004
Sun, 06-11-2006 - 2:45pm

Hi littlebird

What pace do you have anal sex at? n in what positions?? From ur latex gloves comment, im Assuming you health conscious. Do you always use a condom for anal sex or do you do it without??

Sammy

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Registered: 05-26-2006
Mon, 06-12-2006 - 3:34am
sorry about what your ex did, what a jerk! hmm. my boyfriend wanted to try anal sex a while back. i was taking birth control a while back and it made me sooo moody and i hated how i felt so i stopped taking it. so he wanted to do anal until i can do something to make sure i don't make babies. i don't know why, but for a while i was sooo opposed to it. he was fine with that. he'd always ask why i was so opposed, and i never really knew. well one night i was talking to him about something and i decided i want to try a bunch of things with him, you know? it'd be fun. so i told him, he was so excited. a while later we had anal sex and i liked it, which was funny because i didnt want to do it at first. anyway, i liked it alot and we've done it more since then. you have to do a few things for it to be good, a friend of mine didnt do anything right and hated it. go to the bathroom first, it'll clear everything out so it's comfortable. and take a shower, wash around it so that it's not all ew or anything. get some rubber gloves, have him put one on and use lots of lube and put a finger in first to loosen it up. do that for a while, adding fingers, and whenever you're comfortable with it, he can penetrate you. be sure to use lots of lube though, you can never use too much, and if anything hurts let him know and have him stop what he's doing. hope this helps, let me know how it goes!
-amy =]

**Amy**

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Registered: 10-16-2005
Mon, 06-12-2006 - 4:13am
*sigh* well so much for that... he hasn't contacted me in two weeks so I can pretty much say that the relationship (if there ever was one *rolls eyes*) is over..but no worries..I can go find me a ripe guy :)...but thanks for the suggestions...I did try experimenting myself..i ended up getting a charlie's horse everytime so I gotta try it in another position. Thanks again!
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Mon, 06-12-2006 - 6:10am

Shame.. he couldnt handle too much of a good thing penguinite.

What sort of experimentation did you do and what on earth is a charlies horse?

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Registered: 10-16-2005
Mon, 06-12-2006 - 6:14am

well i tried the finger thing with a latex glove...but how i was positioned (i'm a little on the heavy set) caused my muscles to seize up and knot itself (that's what a charlie's horse is)

yeah too bad he missed out and too bad for me too..he was the biggest I've had and I so sorely miss it lol

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