Crap...

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Registered: 10-16-2005
Crap...
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Fri, 06-16-2006 - 6:02am
Maybe going after my coworker wasn't the greatest idea after all... we worked together for the first time since that incident at the park and he was really cold and distant towards me, occasionally giving me the annoyed look. I don't understand...HE was the one who initiated it, not me. I even asked him if he would get weird if this did go down and he completely assured me that he wouldn't. So...what happened then? Was he not pleased with me? Granted not much happened...it was rough...and it felt good but something wasn't right. Why is he acting like this?
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Registered: 01-16-2005
In reply to: penguinite
Fri, 06-16-2006 - 6:27am

You posting supports the replies that I given when I say you should not play with co-workers. There are many reasons why he is acting this and it is best to discuss it with him. I can give you a few probable reasons. It is possible that someone found out and he was reprimanded for the encounter. This is quite possible, especially, if your office has a no dating policy or he has a more senior position than you. Another possible reason is he is trying to cover up what the two of you did so that others do not catch on about the encounter. He may have started a new relationship with someone, either in or out of the office, and feels very uncomfortable around you. A final explaination is that going into it he did not believe it would leave him feeling uncomfortable but afterwards he may have had second thoughts about doing it.

I am one who believes work and relationships just do not work. It may be worth your time to sit down and ask him what has changed.

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Registered: 08-12-2002
In reply to: penguinite
Fri, 06-16-2006 - 7:05am
The only thing you can do is ask him straight out why he is behaving strangely, when he assured you before the trist that things wouldn't be weird.

 


 


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Registered: 08-12-2004
In reply to: penguinite
Fri, 06-16-2006 - 7:10am
I agree, if you need to know.
But, after one attemp at asking, I'd leave it alone. Do your best to ignore him and move on.
Been there and done that, best just to move on....
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Registered: 08-12-2002
In reply to: penguinite
Fri, 06-16-2006 - 7:34am

Agreed.

 


 


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Registered: 09-16-2003
In reply to: penguinite
Fri, 06-16-2006 - 9:06am
sex with co-workers is complicated, and in general, a bad idea IMO.


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Registered: 01-14-2005
In reply to: penguinite
Fri, 06-16-2006 - 10:38am
Recommend that you do not put anything in an email, txt, that you wouldn't want to see on the front page of your local newspaper. Once you hit send you completely lose control. Be careful
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Registered: 05-18-2006
In reply to: penguinite
Fri, 06-16-2006 - 11:07am

>>I even asked him if he would get weird if this did go down and he completely assured me that he wouldn't.<<

Oh hun, men will say ANYTHING to seduce you. That old line of "Of course I'll respect you in the morning" gets really old.

Swallow your pride, move on and be strong. His loss!

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Registered: 03-19-2003
In reply to: penguinite
Fri, 06-16-2006 - 4:34pm

Good advice from mr_martin.

 

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Registered: 10-16-2005
In reply to: penguinite
Fri, 06-16-2006 - 6:45pm

well I went up to him and I asked him. I would've gotten a response if he wasn't startled by the question and dropped an entire bowl of hot, hot, HOT sauce, scalding his arm. So I'll have to wait until the next time, but by then it'll be at least 2 weeks. Maybe he would be over it by then. I know he doesn't have a girlfriend (he complains about it everytime) and I know of some people who are trying to set us up. After the sex...I don't know if it'll be wise lol.

It's interesting. Normally it's the guy who gets up and says "I'll call you" or something and just take off. But it was ME who said "sorry to **** and run but I gotta go" do you think he was a little put off by that? Could that be a reason why he was distant?

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