How to drive your man WILD!!

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Registered: 08-12-2004
How to drive your man WILD!!
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Sat, 09-02-2006 - 9:32am

I thought you ladies would like to try it. I know I've tried to figure out how to get my girl to read it, without offending her. LOL. I had to "edit" the language for here...enjoy ;p
Hope you , or he, enjoys: Sorry it is long, but I really feel it is WELL worth reading.

Ok, so you want to give a mind blowing sexual
experience to your man? Read this, and I promise you
that any man you do this to will be at your beck and
call forever.

Ok, first, you need to get comfortable with the idea
that most of this has nothing at all to do with your
body, only everything to do with his. Most women I talk
to find this surprising, because men seem only to be
turned on by women's bodies, but I can assure you that
giving the MOST pleasure to a man involves your brain
and your hands more than your vagina! We're not talking
about love making here, but pure, maximized pleasure
for your man. A lot of women seem put off or
disappointed by this at first, that giving maximum
pleasure doesn't come from just having sex, but read
this all the way through and then make your decision.

So, step one. If your man is really hairy "down there",
either get him to shave his pubes and the hair off his
balls, or do it for him. It's probably easier the first
time just to ask him to do it himself. First, almost
all men are very experienced shavers, and they are not
likely to trust you doing it, god forbid you make a
mistake! And second, just the idea that you've asked
them to do this will almost guarantee a raging hard-on
for the entire day as they try to imagine what you have
in mind! Some men might already do this anyway as a
hygiene or comfort thing, especially if you're guy is
an athlete, so in this case, just drop a hint that
you'd like him to be "cleaned up" down there for the
night's activities.

Okay, here's a general overview of what you're going to
do. You're not going to just screw your guy in ten
minutes or give him a quick blow job. What you're going
to be doing is drawing his pleasure out and driving him
NUTS for as long as you want. I'd suggest at least an
hour, but you'll learn below that you can keep him
lingering in a state of ecstasy for as long as you are
willing. My longest session lasted over six hours!!!
During that time I satisfied my own sexual urges (and
increased his sexual ecstacy/frustration state) by
masturbating myself to orgasm in front of him three
times, each time with a different toy. So, the pleasure
you are going to give him really comes from keeping him
in an excited state for a looooooong time, and then,
only when YOU are ready, giving him the release of an
orgasm that will blow his mind beyond anything he's
ever had.

If you can, and if your man is agreeable, tie him up.
Some men just can't take it. You'll have to decide for
yourself what works for you, only you really know your
guy, but my experience has usually, though not always,
been better when I tied my man up. If you do this, just
tie his hands above his head or anywhere where he
basically can't use them, and then tie his feet spread
apart enough that you have "access" to everything.

Okay, this next step is new to most women. If you know
what a penis ring is and how to use it, then put it on
him, over the top of the penis and under the balls. If
you've never done this before, then get either a penis
ring, a short piece of rope, or even one of those hair
scrunchy things (don't use a rubber band though because
it can pinch and cutoff too much circulation). You are
going to use it to keep the penis and balls away from
the body. A man's balls have a tendency to draw up into
his body when he gets erect, because everything
tightens up down there. We want to prevent this from
happening for reasons that I'll make clear in a minute,
and this also helps keep his erection. What you want to
do with the rope or whatever your using, is make a loop
that goes around the base of the top side (when I say
top side here I mean the part that faces his upper
body, and the bottom side or underside is the (very
sensitive) part that faces the lower part of his body)
as close to his pubic bone as possible, and then
underneath his balls. You want to tie it pretty tight,
tight enough to keep his balls from pulling up inside
his body. Don't worry, you're not going to hurt him,
really. Feel free to pull on the scrotum to get as much
of it hanging out as possible, and tie the loop down
fairly tight.
Adjustable penis rings are really the best, but I've
always made do just fine with some soft rope or
pony-tail holders.

Okay, again, the main idea here is that you are going
to sexually arouse and frustrate your guy for as long
as you want. He may moan and complain, but trust me,
he's enjoying EVERY minute of it. Remember, this is
about HIS pleasure and not yours, but that doesn't mean
you can't have some fun too! So, as part of the plan,
any time you want to, feel free to take a break and
stimulate yourself, even come if you want to, just be
sure you do it so that he can see. ALL guys like to
watch women playing with themselves. Different guys
like different things though. You'll just have to try
some things and find out what it is that drives your
guy the craziest. For most guys, just watching you do
something that you normally only do in private is more
than enough!

All right, now to answer the big question that most
women have. How do I keep a guy stimulated for an hour
(or longer) without him cumming? Most women tell me
that three to five minutes is all it takes for their
man to come with a hand job. The secret is lots of
lotion to keep things slippery, and in knowing how a
man's body works, and what parts to stimulate when. The
top of a man's penis is called the glans. The glans is
by far the most sensitive part of the penis and it
plays a very important role in orgasm. BUT, if you
stimulate the glans and ONLY the glans, he WON'T BE
ABLE TO COME and you can drive your man right off the
edge of the world. The glans gets more and more
sensitive the closer a man gets to orgasm. If a man is
real close to orgasm, maybe because you've been
stroking his whole penis, and you suddenly stop and
start stimulating only the glans, if he's not tied
down, he's likely to jump right through the roof! Most
guys describe the feeling as deeply erotic, intense,
and even emotional. You can keep up the glans
stimulation for several minutes; you're guy will be
weak at the knees.

At some point, the glans stimulation will begin to have
less of an effect. This is your clue to stroke his
entire penis again a few times. There are two things you
can do here, but the key is that you need to give some
attention to the very sensitive area on the underside
(the part that faces away from his body) of the penis.
Usually there's a small, rough, bumpy area on the
underside about halfway up his shaft. THIS spot WILL
make him come! Don't spend too much time there, but do
give it some attention when the glans massage seems to
be losing it's effect. The entire area from that rough
spot up to the glans is very sensitive and is THE area
to stimulate once you're ready to make him come. In
fact, stimulating this area alone without touching the
glans will make him come, though it might take a while.
Stimulating this area in combination with the glans
will make him come FAST! So, when you are finally ready
to give him his blissful release, now you know what to
do. Okay, the two things you can do. First, if you're
massaging his glans and it's effect is wearing off, a
few strokes up and down the entire length of his penis,
with special attention to the bumpy sensitive spot,
will restore the sensitivity of the glans quite a bit.
You can also stroke the entire penis EXCEPT for the
glans for a moment, and then return to the glans. I
find this to be incredibly effective and most men tell
me it's like a near out of body experience when I stop
stroking and return to the glans.

Okay, now that you have the basic idea, we can add a
couple of dimensions that will take him even further
into ecstacy. First, while you are doing the glans
massage, also massage his balls. A mans testicles are
super sensitive to light touches and rubbing, and it
increases the glans massage effect. If you didn't use a
penis ring of some sort like described above, your guys
balls will probably have retreated up into his body.
You can use your hand to gently push them back down
(again, don't worry, this won't hurt him in the
least!), but without three hands, you'll find you'll
have to do this over and over unless you've used a penis
ring.

The second dimension you can add is that, again if you
used a penis ring, you can SPANK his balls. That's
right, you can spank them! Most women know that if you
hit a man in the nuts you can drop him to the floor.
Well, we're not going to be hitting him! The same
nerves that cause that reaction in a man also cause
incredibly erotic sensations when hit *gently*. You can
experiment here. Some men can barely stand light taps,
others can take very hard slaps. If you do this, and I
HIGHLY recommend that you add this because the erotic
sensation is intense, both because of the physical and
mental stimulation, you can ask your guy if he thinks
he can take more. Keep it going and keep asking him. He
WILL be enjoying it, and if he's not, he's SURE to let
you know! By the way, you can do this either while
massaging his glans or not. I've had mixed experience
here. Most guys seem to really like the combination of
the two, but personally I don't have the coordination
to always do it effectively. Your mileage may vary.

The last dimension that you can add is one that can
make a difference as to whether your man's experience
is just truly wonderful or totally out of this world,
but unfortunately is the one dimension that most women
I talk to are most uncomfortable with. Anal
stimulation. Some of you will probably just quit
reading right there, and others will be going, yay
finally some information on how to do this right, but
you really owe it to yourself to read this part. The
biggest hangup most women seem to have is the
cleanliness issue, so let me just address that right up
front. Except for right before a bowel movement, the
bottom part of the colon is empty and sterile. It's
just ask pink and pretty as any other body cavity! So,
if you plan to add this, and again if you are really
looking to drive your guy as far into sexual pleasure
as possible then you should, just be sure you ask him
to be sure his "backside" is clean before you start, or
better yet, have him shower (or take a shower with him)
right before playtime. There are a few things you can
do here. The simplest is to just stimulate the Anal
opening. It is INCREDIBLY sensitive, and when combined
with a glans massage, some men almost can't take it. If
your guy is limp, get a vibrator and tease him with it
"right there". Without you even touching him, he'll
have a raging hard-on like you've never seen. I've been
told, but have never had it happen, that some men, like
some women, can actually orgasm from Anal stimulation
alone. I've never had this happen, but if it happens to
you, I'd love to hear from you. Okay, a step beyond
just stimulating the anus with a vibrator is actual
penetration. Again, this is a muscle that is loaded
with nerve endings, both inside and outside, and
shallow in and out penetration appears to be mind
blowing. Go easy at first and use lots of Lubricant.
Like any muscle the sphincter muscle will relax after a
few minutes and you'll find it very easy to literally
"screw" your guy, something most women find very erotic
since it's a sort of turn of the tables. Again, you can
combine it with penis/glans massage or not. Try the
combos and see what happens. Okay, that brings us to
the last thing. First, there's no reason to do more
than just shallow penetrations unless you want to go to
the next step, which is to massage the prostate. Most
men describe this as the ultimate erotic experience,
and I HAVE had men orgasm from prostate massage alone,
but it seems to be a different, almost tantric kind of
orgams, and they are still able to have a normal orgasm
later!!! The prostate is located just a few centimeters
into the rectum, toward the front side of his body
(i.e. towards his penis). The best way to massage it is
either with a finger, or, if you're uncomfortable with
this or you have FINGERNAILS, then use some sort of a
vibrator. Any vibrator made for stimulating the female
g-spot is usually PERFECT for the prostate as well. As
always with anything new, go EASY at first. Aim the
curved part of the vibrator upward toward the penis,
and use firm but gentle pressure and glide it back and
forth. Remember the prostate is never more than just a
few inches from the Anal opening, so deep penetration
is not necessary. It's more important to get upward
pressure on the prostate. Some guys can barely tolerate
their prostate being massaged, others you can press as
hard as you want, but in EVERY guy I've ever done this
to, there's NO question that it must be an incredibly
sexual and erotic feeling. I would suggest NOT touching
the penis at all while you do this, not even the glans,
as the guy is likely to come without warning if you do.
Note that many guys will even go soft while you are
massaging their prostate, and that some guys can even
have orgasms without an erection like this! Every guy
is different. If you try this, you'll just have to
learn what's best for YOUR guy, but trust me, he'll
NEVER forget the experience.

Okay, finally, at some point, your man's just not going
to be able to take it any more. Unless you're punishing
him for something, you'll need to "finish him off."
Trust me it won't take much. Either let him screw you,
or just finish him off by finally concentrating on both
the glans and the sensitive underside at the same time
with some hand strokes. If you finish him off by hand,
focus your strokes on the upper half of his penis,
making sure to go all the way up over the glans with
each stroke, and then about half way down, stopping
just below that bumpy sensitive part. Chances are that
once you give him these earnest strokes, he'll come in
just a few strokes. Also, if you finish him off by
hand, don't stop pumping when he comes! As sensitive as
the glans is as a man approaches orgasm, it becomes ten
times more so right after he comes, and most men find
the experience of having it stroked quite exquisite. If
they can stand it that is! Just don't stop until he
tell you to. If you let him screw you as his final
reward instead, he'll of course stop when he wants to.
Which is better? Well, I hate to admit it ladies, but
most men tell me that being finished off by hand is
actually better. I don't know why, it seems to me it
should be the other way around, but I can't argue with
years of experience!

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Registered: 03-25-2003
Sat, 09-02-2006 - 10:09pm
This was a very interesting post! Thank you for sharing it! I might have to try some of it when I'm not sick.
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Registered: 05-09-2004
Sat, 09-02-2006 - 10:24pm
Have you ever seen a grown man cry? He had the most incredible orgasm of his life.
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Registered: 08-12-2004
Sun, 09-03-2006 - 8:06am
Glad to here it Morse!!!
I'm always willing to help a guy~~opps, I mean, girl out!!!
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Registered: 05-09-2004
Sun, 09-03-2006 - 11:32am
Now, if only there was a way to get him to reciprocate. He has taken to my unselfishness in the area of sex way too well.