Where has my sex drive gone?!
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| Mon, 09-11-2006 - 9:26pm |
Does anyone have any ideas on how to get it back??? I'm starting to aggravate myself... I know my DH has to be aggravated, but he's being wonderful with me.
In a few short weeks I have gone from wanting sex 2-3 times a day and masturbating at least that many times a day to trying to psych myself up for sex at least once a week for DH. I don't want it... I have NO desire for it. I have to tell myself that once it starts it won't be that bad. WTH?!?!?! This is coming from someone that used to ALWAYS be horny. Another thing that's irritating me is that I used to be able to orgasm so easily and have several with hardly any effort at all... now I'm having a hard time orgasming and the number has come way down. I've lost ALL desire for reading erotica, cybering, phone sex... I swear I almost feel prudish. I don't think any of it is wrong, I just don't feel like it's for me lately. Any ideas what's going on? The only thing that has changed in my life is that I'm trying to eat better and working out a lot.

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Have you been more tired and/or stressed than usual?
Have you been taking some medications that could have reduced your sex drive, i.e. antidepressants, birth control etc?
well, is it possible you are having a little situational depression?
Bayou, Bayou, Bayou......... I feel your pain sweetie! Let me tell you this.....
I've had the most stress in probably 7 years this past year. We moved 7 hours away from family and friends, found out my son is phonetically dyslexic, I had to adjust to a new place and new way of life, too many more to name......it's finally after a year has come full tilt with me! In the past 2/3 months it's physically starting to come out -- THE STRESS OF IT ALL! I can't sleep at night, I can't shut down, I'm tired ALL TIME TIME. I've recently gone to the dr about it b/c I thought something is/was physically wrong. He tested me for a lot of different things such as thyroid problems, etc, which you might just ask your dr about too! Hyper thyroid problems can cause extreme fatigue, etc. All my tests came back negative, so he thinks it's more anxiety and the fact that I finally can't hold all this in anymore and it's finally taking my body over physically!
I'm keeping my fingers crossed that there are many many replies to this thread!
Thanks Newbie! I am sorry to hear about all the stress you are under. I cannot imagine going through all of that.
I seem to go through this cycle every 2-3 years or so. I did go to the doctor the last time I felt so down and unhappy with life. He did all kinds of tests, bloodwork, thyroid, all of that and said my thyroid numbers were a tiny bit low, but not near enough to worry about. He told me then that I had anxiety problems and needed to just try to look on the bright side of things. He prescribed an anti-depressant, but I stopped taking it after a couple of months. I couldn't tell any difference. I never followed up on it and went back, because eventually I started to pull out of it.
HUGS to you too!
Bayou you don't HAVE to have a reason for being depressed. Depression just is. I said the same thing to my dr - I had lots of changes and thought I was getting depressed about them, but told him I think I'm fine now and dealing with things much better. He said, well you don't have to have a reason to be depressed. Depression just is and a lot people who have depression think they are fine too. Depression can affect every one differently - emotionally and physicially.
So, don't rule anything out -- talk to your doctor! It won't hurt to ask. :)
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