Cum Question

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Registered: 06-05-2004
Cum Question
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Thu, 09-21-2006 - 11:28pm

My woman and I have great sex, but the one thing that drives me nuts is that right after I cum in her ( I always go down on her beforehand to make sure she gets an orgasm first), she always gets right up and goes to the bathroom to get rid of my cum. I would so love for her to just stay in bed and enjoy having my cum inside her, and have it be there as lubricant for round two, or a morning delight after we get up the next morning.

What would be a sensitive way to bring my desires up?

I realize that by getting my sperm out of her, it reduces an unplanned pregnancy, but she is on the pill, and we have not had any surprises in that department.

Any input would be much appreciated. :)

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Registered: 04-21-2006
In reply to: michman2004
Thu, 09-21-2006 - 11:55pm

First of all - Applause to you for wanting to be sensitive.
Secondly - Getting the sperm out quickly will not prevent a pregnancy, that sperm would be already "on it's way" !
How is your communication? You are obviously sensitive to her because you want her to have an orgasm first. I think all you have to do is tell her how your feel. Maybe during foreplay (since you need to tell her before she hops out of bed after you are through) you could ask her to try something "for you", and tell her why, the reasons you posted "lubricant for round two, or a morning delight after we get up the next morning."

Now, with that said, sometimes cum that stays there starts to sting. Sometimes I can do it and sometimes I just cannot, and I finally have to get up and deal with it. So, you might start the conversation by asking her if there is a reason why she does that, she might have sensitive skin, or it might be a habit she developed in another relationship, or at a younger age, or when she was with someone that didn't want her to stay in bed with him, and it all needs to be re-evaluated.

I think at the right time and with the right "sincere" in your voice, you can find out a lot and either compromise, or know why she can't do this.

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Registered: 03-19-2003
In reply to: michman2004
Fri, 09-22-2006 - 2:46am

Hi, michman.

 

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Registered: 08-16-2006
In reply to: michman2004
Fri, 09-22-2006 - 2:51am
What are yoy doing up at this time Jazz?
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Registered: 03-23-2004
In reply to: michman2004
Fri, 09-22-2006 - 12:34pm

My wonderful DW also gets up shortly after the lovemaking ends, But for her it's a bladder infection thing. She's prone to them and sex is often the cause (bacteria forced into the urethra during intercourse). If she gets up and pees within a few minutes after sex the problem is solved. She always comes back to cuddle though.

So my advice is to let it go. If she runs away from you after sex that's a different issue, but if she just gets up to hit the head?

Soul

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Registered: 09-02-2006
In reply to: michman2004
Fri, 09-22-2006 - 4:38pm

Hi Michman! I'm envious that your woman has a man that wants to go for round 2! I'm like her in that I hop up and "go" pretty soon afterwards because of the wet spot. Neither of us want to lay in it! But I try to be cute about getting up to go and make sure to give him kiss or something when I return to help prevent the same type of feelings/sentiment that you have. I love Jazz's suggestion that before you cum, you ask her to do something special for you... I think it's a pretty sexy request!

Watergirl

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Registered: 05-03-2006
In reply to: michman2004
Fri, 09-22-2006 - 7:39pm
maybe talk to her, see what she thinks, ,and if she doesnt like it, then just let her beeee!
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Registered: 01-02-2001
In reply to: michman2004
Fri, 09-22-2006 - 9:25pm
Maybe she wants round #2 to include more oral and she want to be clean for you.
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Registered: 09-16-2003
In reply to: michman2004
Sat, 09-23-2006 - 3:59am
I am for the direct approach, ask HER.


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Registered: 05-25-2006
In reply to: michman2004
Sun, 10-01-2006 - 8:10pm
I used to gag at the thought of swallowing...now I beg for it...if I can come
this far (no pun intended) there is hope for any woman...good luck !!!
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Registered: 09-11-2005
In reply to: michman2004
Mon, 10-02-2006 - 1:16am
Mine never hesitates to have me go down for more oral, clean or not LOL

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