Totally Taboo

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Registered: 07-03-2006
Totally Taboo
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Sat, 09-23-2006 - 11:56am
I was discussing this with a Cosmo ivillage friend of a bizzare sex act I had encountered. I will keep it short and as pg as I can. One time in college (many years ago) a girl came into my room late at night when she saw my door open and I was watching tv. She pretty much attacked me and insisted that she wanted only anal sex. I am only so so with anal sex but we did it anyway. Afterwards she insisted that she now had to clean my penis up and she gave me oral. While giving me oral she kept saying how good it tasted. After I had an orgasim she wanted to kiss me. I told her no way. I know I hurt her feelings but that was over the top for me. Are any other woman or men ok with this?

 


 


 


 


 

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Registered: 07-24-2006
In reply to: willy56308
Sat, 09-23-2006 - 12:39pm

Not my thing, but I have heard of some couples enjoying this type of activity. However, I'm unfamiliar with the woman wanting to kiss her man after all this. Whenever I've heard of this happening, the female just "cleans" her man up as you put it, and then that's the end. However, I hope this young lady who performed this act on you was informed of all the bacteria and waste particles that she was taking into her mouth (which could possibly make her sick), even if it wasn't noticeable, it's still there. I know this was years ago, but I would think that knowledge of this fact is just common sense---maybe she liked the risk? Who knows, to each his own, but that just seems like it would be in bad taste to me....no pun intended---okay it was intended.... With the way this situation was approached, it sounds to me like there were some other things going on with her psychologically ...and I don't mean that to say that she was "crazy", but maybe something emotional on her end like some sort of inferiority complex (she basically degraded herself), as the way she went about this sex act is what would be termed "deviant". I may get backlash for saying this, but that's just my opinion.

Chakra

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Registered: 09-18-2006
In reply to: willy56308
Sat, 09-23-2006 - 2:39pm
It's a little hard to gather from your email exactly what part of the experience you had the problems. If it's the part of kissing you right after she had your cum in her mouth.... it's called "snowballing" and thats when a woman kisses a man and gives his cum back to him in a kiss. Many men are turned on by it...hence the term "snowballing". It isn't for me but anything that turns a person on ... go for it if both parties agree.
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Registered: 03-17-2006
In reply to: willy56308
Sat, 09-23-2006 - 4:14pm

You must have been "the man" on campus!

For a girl to see your through an open door, attack you, demand anal, clean you off orally after that! That's just amazing!

I've only heard of that sort of thing in degrading porn where the guy takes a girl anally and then forces her to give him oral after being in her anus. I put it up there with the stuff like Bukkake that may serve to some mens desires to see woman degraded but can't imagine that being part of my normal sex life.

After reading all the threads here on anal and I do belive most everyone agreed that proper cleansing would be required before any further sexual acts.

As for not kissing her afterwards - I don't think I could have even if she hadn't cleaned me of...that might have made that situation to personal.

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Registered: 07-03-2006
In reply to: willy56308
Sat, 09-23-2006 - 6:58pm
I had the problem with kissing her after the oral because of the anal.

 


 


 


 


 

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Registered: 03-19-2003
In reply to: willy56308
Sun, 09-24-2006 - 9:17pm

In porn, they call it ATM, ass to mouth.

 

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Registered: 07-24-2006
In reply to: willy56308
Mon, 09-25-2006 - 2:28am

"Totally grosses me out."

Not me or my husband's thing either....Ditto on the complete aversion factor. I just really don't see how it can be a turnon, particularly if it's done without prior precautions to prevent fecal contamination on the genitals or mouth. Fecal matter is known to harbor all kinds of bacteria (good and bad that live in the colon), and if the person is at all infected with hepatitis, parasites or any other disease, it can be spread to his/her partner through oral contact--even if fecal matter isn't visible to the naked eye, there is still a risk....but once again, these are just my opinions...I know everyone has their own idea of what's sexually arousing and what isn't. This is an "isn't" for me.

Chakra




Edited 9/25/2006 10:16 am ET by ayurchakra
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Registered: 07-19-2004
In reply to: willy56308
Mon, 09-25-2006 - 9:39am
Wow, I never thought of it as a form of scat play. I do ATM all the time. But I do spend about 30 mins (a couple hours before anal) cleaning myself. I do several water "douches" until the water coming out is completely clear. I know this doesn't make it totally clean but its close. I do oral all the time after anal, but we always look to see if the penis looks "clean". If there is a miniscule spec of anything on it I won't do oral. I never tasted anything gross, or got sick from it. And neither my SO or my BF have a problem kissing me after.

 

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Registered: 09-07-2005
In reply to: willy56308
Mon, 09-25-2006 - 7:26pm
No ATM for me, I dont mind anal, but I dont want to taste whats up there! LOL
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Registered: 09-07-2005
In reply to: willy56308
Mon, 09-25-2006 - 10:41pm

OVER the top? I didnt think anything would be over the top for you Willy !

LOL

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