First Time anal, wants more

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Registered: 05-25-2006
First Time anal, wants more
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Wed, 09-27-2006 - 8:09pm
My husband and I did anal for the first time the other night, and even though it hurt
at first, I am really anxious to try it again...my husband is not so enthused, and says
it would be ok once in a while, but he is not in a big hurry...i find my self fantasizing
about the next time and want it really, really bad...any suggestions to help motivate him?

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Registered: 11-01-2005
Wed, 09-27-2006 - 11:27pm
It is rare that guys dont like anal. Usually, guys ask for it, but gals dont want to try it or they just say "it would be ok once in a while". By the way, who suggested it 1st? How did you feel for your 1st time anal sex? Have you told him how you feel afterward? How about him? Does he like it or not? What is his attitude to anal sex? Although many guys (including me) like anal sex very much, there are a few reasons why guys dont like anal. As far as I know, some guys deep inside like it, but they dont admit they like it. It may be because they think that it is a gay-related sexual activity. Another reason is that they may scare of hurting their partners. Some guys may think that it is dirty or something else. Anyway, you should ask him what he thinks of this subject. In my opinion, the best motivation is your sexual reaction to anal sex. If he knows you like this fine art of love making so badly and he finds out you may have a big O during anal sex, it will be a big turn on. No man can resist this temptation to explore his woman's most private and forbidden rear garden especially when his woman is willing to surrender it to him. Your guy is very lucky. He should cherish you as much as he can. I hope that you can enjoy this fine art of love making soon. I am waiting for your good news.
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Registered: 09-25-2006
Thu, 09-28-2006 - 6:22am
It took me ahwile but I love anal now....one of my current "freinds with benefits" is great at it but he has to be....hes huge...9.5" and its thick but once he gets going and all lubed, mmmmmmmmmmmm its great
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Registered: 05-25-2006
Thu, 09-28-2006 - 6:23am
It was something he wanted to do...It hurt like hell at first, but then I relaxed a little, I was still pretty tense during the act though, afterwards thou he took off his condom and did my vagina some more and then i finished him im my mouth (my absolute favorite)...the next day I found myself on cloud nine and obsessed with the idea of him doing me anal again...I thinkk I could realy relax and love it...I told him this and I think he was so surprised by my reaction, he did not know what to think...I think it may take some time, (it has to be his idea), but I am sure I can get him in my back door more...kmm...just thinkging about it...Thanks for your imput..
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Registered: 09-25-2006
Thu, 09-28-2006 - 6:25am
Have him play with ur ass a lot more....tongue, fingers, vibrators, etc.....always with a lot of lube....and make sure hes playing with your clit all at the same time
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Thu, 09-28-2006 - 7:15am
Thanks for your tips, I thought it would be more relaxing if he used a vibrator on
my clit and fingered my anal area...
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Thu, 09-28-2006 - 6:31pm

Why not have him start with oral, use fingers to stimulate you vaginally during oral and when you are really hot slide one in your backside and keep up the oral. He can use a toy on your backside during oral as well. To add even more pleasure why not use a toy in your backside and your husband in you at the same time?

My DW and I have done all of this and she and I both have had killer orgasms

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Registered: 11-01-2005
Thu, 09-28-2006 - 9:47pm
You are welcome. Thank for your reply. Well, I dont feel surprised that it was his idea. As I mentioned before, most men like anal sex. He must be surprised by your reaction. It hurt like hell at first. The next day, you tell him that you found yourself obsessed with the idea of him doing you anal again. Anyway, no matter what his instant reaction was, I am pretty sure that he will do it with you again soon. No man can resist it. By the way, you are so great and brave. I guess you should expect that it may hurt like hell at first (it should not hurt if you do it right and perpare for it well), but you still give it a try. I suggest that he should stimulate your clit and finger your anus at the same. while you almost get the clit orgasm, he can insert his 2nd or 3rd fingers into you. After you had an orgasm, you can relax more and get used to have something in your anus. Then he can give you a rimming. When you get highly aroused, he can start to insert his penis into your anus very very slowly. Don't forget to keep stimulating your clit at the same time by him or yourself. You have potential for doing this fine art of love making. I hope that you can enjoy it soon. I wish you all the best.
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Registered: 11-01-2005
Thu, 09-28-2006 - 10:21pm

Hi palady,

Nice to meet you. Thank for your reply. I have to confess that it is always a big turn on for me when a girl says she enjoys anal sex. Besides kinky37's BF, your BF is another luck guy. He is huge but you still can take it. You are so cool. By the way, I have to say that you look so sexy and pretty. I just can't imagine how such an attractive girl like you can take 9.5" thing up there. Would you mind telling me how you get into anal sex? How was your 1st time anal? did it hurt like hell for the first time as kinky37 did? If yes, how could you overcome it and why were you willing to try it again?

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Registered: 09-29-2006
Sat, 09-30-2006 - 9:36am

Kinky,
Let me relate the first anal experience with my wife. We had talked about it and she was naturally nervous as she had never done that before. We took it very slowly, first just a well lubed finger, then two, slowly relaxing her muscles and letting it stretch out. Our first time, she was not able to take all of me, but liked it enough to try again.
We have evolved our procedures to help her relax, usually starting with some great oral sex. While I am working her clit with my mouth and tongue, I start working my fingers into her vagina. After her first O, I begin to work her back door using some KY, sliding in one finger at first, letting her become accustomed to that, then gradually working up to three fingers. After another couple of Os, she is ready for some real action and turns over, gets up on her knees and practically begs for me to take her. She is lubed from the finger action so there is no delay. In it goes, slowly at first as she becomes accustomed to it. After a short time, she is actually thrusting backwards against me, taking all of me (no additional comments here, LOL)!
She has come to love this and actually has a tremendous orgasm from anal penetration. Sometimes I will reach around for some manual clitoral stimulation for her added pleasure to make her orgasm longer. She loves the feel when I orgasm inside her ass, as she can feel each contraction and each shot go deep inside of her.
Sometimes we have normal intercourse between the oral and the anal, stopping before I climax. That way we are experiencing the best of all worlds during the same session, oral, vaginal, and anal. This is probably our most intimate lovemaking.

Keys: Start slowly, keep lubricated, don't force anything!

The feel of her back tunnel is much different from vaginal sex, as the smooth, round muscles create a much different sensation on my penis. She has learned to squeeze me without causing herself any pain.

I hope you learn enjoy it as much as we do!

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Sat, 09-30-2006 - 10:37am
Thank you for your imput...I was actualy "practicing" last night by myself and found
that aquating on my vibrator I was able to easily take it all in my anal region and loved the feeling...now I am even more anxious for the real deal...

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