Femdom Fantasy

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Registered: 08-23-2006
Femdom Fantasy
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Tue, 10-10-2006 - 2:01pm
Women, do you have a fantasy of being completely dominate during sex? I'm talking tying him up and doing whatever you want to him. My wife and I have dabbled in BDSM and she's always been the submissive with me being the dominate. Nothing too extreme, light nipple clamps, buttplugs, light spanking. This was her idea but I quickly liked it. Now we have been talking about it and have decided to also switch places. She wants to use a strap on on me while I masterbate, at first I wasn't thrilled with the idea but now I'm interested and have agreed to let her try it. So my question is: Do other women have this fantasy and if you have, have you tried it and did your SO seem to like it. Did he want to do it again?
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Registered: 07-30-2003
In reply to: sdino11234
Wed, 10-11-2006 - 12:29pm

WEll...You might check out Halloween crossdressing.. And my plans for hb. WE play alot and when it's my turn sweet hb is always at my mercy. Usually feminized and tied for my sexual fun and of course his. When we first started he was bit more taken back and even now after these last few years of doing this, though I sure he's not fully into it as I am, he plays to please me and I him. Poor guy can't help but get an erection as soon as the panties go on..LOL.. And let me tell you.. There is nothing more erotic than kissing your guy whos's wearing lipstick.. HE! HE!.. Even if I'm the one wearing it in a normal scene it seems like a erotic trigger on the him now..

If you play..make sure to have a signature look and fragrence. It really heightens your power of the scene.

Go play now..LOL

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Registered: 08-23-2006
In reply to: sdino11234
Wed, 10-11-2006 - 2:13pm
I don't think I'll be dressiing in her clothes. Its good for you but not really our style. I am a little nervous about trying it the first time but its a good nervous.
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Registered: 07-30-2003
In reply to: sdino11234
Wed, 10-11-2006 - 3:07pm

You both need to set your limits before play. If you are giving into her fully than she has the power to do whatever. If that means feminization ..well then. But if that is an area you really don't want in your play than you need to express that before hand.

An example. I personally don't like anal penatration. I don't get the thrill or turnon by it, like some women do, so hb out of respect dosen't do that in our play at all. . In return hb isn't to keen on me doing him with a strapon. he will let me use a venus vibrator in reverse position as the head is quite small and penetration is very limited at best. I get the sense of power and he.. gets by with out much discomfort and can relax and enjoy the ride..LOL You have to know each limits and you need to lay them out before play or one or the other will get hurt either physically or emotionally. My hb and I just didn't jump into this all in one night.. It was for us a growing thing over almost year. We share the power roles. His fantasies are acted upon as well as mine. And believe me it took a bit of time for us to feel free about discussing them and determining yes, no..maybe.

For us it's play and not a life style thing. We're strictly wekend warriors , but with attitude..LOL..I get a much greater high out of the play then hb says he does and I admit to pushing the evelope with my play with him. I think it's a deep routed power trip for me.

Anyway go slow aand enjoy the fun.

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Registered: 08-23-2006
In reply to: sdino11234
Wed, 10-11-2006 - 3:48pm

i agree about being a weekend warrior. there really isn't much on a daily basis. we will have days where you can tell the other person to do anything and they have to do it. even at work. I'll tell her that i want her to masterbate in the bathroom at work and film it on her phone and send it to me. stuff like that. but its definately not a lifestyle.

we are currently re-doing our basement and moving our bedroom down there. there are a bunch of places to put up restraints for standing up. she's interested in trying that instead of just tying up on the bed so I'll give it a shot. the strap on thing was her idea and at first i was a little freaked out. she has used a finger on me a bunch of times and once used a small dildo but i was wayyyyyyyyyyyyy drunk at the time. i've always said I'll try just about anything once so i figured why not.

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Registered: 07-30-2003
In reply to: sdino11234
Wed, 10-11-2006 - 4:22pm

Believe me when I say that we don't rely on just being tied to the bed, etc. We done it over couches., atop the dinning room table. Back of van, Golf course,etc. And even planning a trip to the cemetary..LOL

Well...Have a great time. I hope she can squeeze you in..LOL Where's that lube again.

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Registered: 08-16-2006
In reply to: sdino11234
Thu, 10-12-2006 - 11:14am
Well know you got my attention, would love for dw to do that to me. Of course you used my favorite phrase too PANTIES. Love to hear more about your fun time, what a lucky man!
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Registered: 03-08-2004
In reply to: sdino11234
Thu, 10-12-2006 - 9:23pm

Yes, I love when Dh is completely submissive.

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Registered: 11-09-2006
In reply to: sdino11234
Sat, 11-18-2006 - 5:34pm
I would enjoy using a dildo and harness on my husband, but he won't even discuss it now. I can only enjoy thinking about it from time to time. I would like to do it "missionary style" and make him come by "doing" the daylights out of him. I did buy a strapon for the purpose, one of those expensive sorts, cost about $150. I should have discussed it with him first. Things didn't go very well. Funny thing is, I looked I thought really really sexy wearing it. I got turned on just seeing myself in the mirror.
Cunégonde
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Registered: 11-12-2006
In reply to: sdino11234
Sun, 11-19-2006 - 12:42am
Wow. I wish my wife were as adventurous. She can be very (very) assertive at times. I would love to keep going down that road.
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Registered: 08-16-2006
In reply to: sdino11234
Tue, 11-21-2006 - 6:30am
Nice visual, thanks!
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