ITS HURTS SO MUCH!
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| Sat, 10-21-2006 - 2:00pm |
Recently, my boyfriend of over 1 year has told me that he wants to try anal sex. I always had an inclination to, so I consented. On the night we tried, we used plenty of lubrication and I convinced myself to relax while he attempted to penetrate me. However, he was unable to penetrate me more than 2 inches because the pain was excruciating for me. It hurt so much that I am unable to understand how other women are able to physically enjoy it. I want to try anal sex not only because I have a feeling it may be enjoyable after the first time, but I also want to satisfy my boyfriend's needs.
I feel like we did everything right (lots of lube, anal play, etc), which is why I cannot understand what the problem is. Is there something wrong with me? Do you recommend an anesthetic to dull the pain?

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Welcome to the board Strawberry! In my experience, anal sex never hurt and was enjoyable to me. Some times you need to work up to full pentration by using fingers, toys, etc. before the real thing. My advice: Relax, take your time
hi there!
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Hi strawberry86,
Nice to meet you. I am sorry to hear that you had a bad experience for your 1st time anal sex. In fact, it shouldn't happen. Anyway, don't worry. I believe that you can enjoy this fine art of sex with your BF in future because you have a right attitude to anal sex and you believe that you have a feeling it may be enjoyable. Most importantly, you are willing to try it again for yourself and your BF after the first time painful anal sex. In your case, you feel so painful during full anal sex. It means that you are still not ready for a full anal sex. Before having any full anal sex, you need to practice anal play for quite a long time. Take my DW as an example, before having a full anal sex with her, I have been giving her anal play for almost 1 year. Starting from 1 finger to 2 fingers. Besides, I also give her rimming. Finally, she doesn't feel any pain at all for the 1st time. Now, she gets used to the special feeling and she starts to enjoy it step by step. In my opinion, sexual position and entry angle are also very important. You should try different position to find out which one is the best for you. However, before you try it again you should spend more time on anal play until you are ready for a real one. Don't rush to it.
My boyfriend has a large penis - 7 and 1/2 inches and is about 2.5 inches thick, so perhaps that has something to do with my pain. I plan to keep trying though.
Thank you everyone for all your suggestions :)
"I feel like we did everything right (lots of lube, anal play, etc), which is why I cannot understand what the problem is."
It's
(you wwont though)what that does is relaxes the spincter muscle so he can slide right in. You CAN NOT clench AND push at the same time, it is impossible.People say to "relax", well pushing out is the key. Oh yes remember the lube.
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