anal curious? tips?!
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| Mon, 10-30-2006 - 6:56am |
Hi,
I am curious about having anal sex with my boyfriend. He did it a few times with his last girlfriend, so I know he must know how it felt for her, whether it was pleasurable, painful etc... but because of the nature of asking questions about sex with a former lover..I'd prefer not to know about their specific experiences, for obvious reasons.
So! Girls ... please, if you're willing to tell me about your experience(S) with anal sex .. what it was like for the first time, if it hurt, how to make the experience go well, whether you enjoyed it, hated it .. tips on how to do it to make the experience most pleasurable and comfortable ... anything and everything. I'd like to try it, but I'm quite nervous - what if it hurts like hell? Will he have things he'd rather not have on his penis? etc .. the questions you don't want to ask anyone else!!
ANy help would be great!!!
I'm quite nervous, but curious .. maybe you can dispell some of my doubts?
Thanks so much for being open!!

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Welcome to the board, HS.
Always brings a tear of joy to my eye to see yet another considering expanding the pleasure her body can provide and experience! ;)
Yeah, another tear to my eye too! I'm 33 and still trying to get this orgasm thing together. I mean I'm completely satisfied with our groove. Here I was thinking that I was O'ing, but he seems to think that I can't get one and wants to know why I shake so much. I must really be missing something. So the last few times, there were no shakes and no satisfaction but I guess I'm almost ready to try something new.
Welcome to the board, creamy.
Anal can be such a pleasant & PLEASING experience when handled correctly! First of all, you kinda have to want it... if not, you're not relaxed and it will hurt. Breathing really & truly is key, breathe into the experience and focus on how amazing it feels and it will be VERY ENJOYABLE!!
Honestly, anal has become my new favorite!!! My husband loves it too, so it works out good for us, but more so for him I guess. I would say that it is definately an experience everyone should try, but only with someone you completely trust and you know they are "clean." Have Fun!!!!
I've been having anal sex fairly regularly for about 2 years now and the orgasms I have from it are the best!
As posted earlier, relaxing is the biggest thing. But if you trust your partner and you like any type of finger or tongue action back there then you will really enjoy it. Just have a nice long foreplay session, have him loosen you up with finger(s) and/or tongue (its not as dirty as you think) and then whenever you are ready to try just take deep breaths and relax even more.
Right now I like being on top, it gives me more control, but when we first started I would either lay down or bend over the bed and let him control the pressure (I still gave directions - good, keep going, stop, hold it, nope, etc.) and of course lube is a must. However, you might be surprised to find out that you don't need as much lube if he soften his member up just a little when he goes to put it in. It goes in much nicer and when he swells up again, its easier for your body to adjust.
But please also know that just cause you do it sucessfully once or twice doesn't mean that it will be easy every time after that. Sometimes its easy and fantastic and sometimes I'm just too uptight because of work, family, etc. As long as you have someone who loves you and doesn't complain or make you feel bad when you say no to that then you should be able to successfully accomplish your goal, and you'll be surprised at how much you'll enjoy it!
Good Luck!
Welcome to the board, sexysunshine.
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