anal curious? tips?!

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Registered: 09-28-2006
anal curious? tips?!
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Mon, 10-30-2006 - 6:56am

Hi,

I am curious about having anal sex with my boyfriend. He did it a few times with his last girlfriend, so I know he must know how it felt for her, whether it was pleasurable, painful etc... but because of the nature of asking questions about sex with a former lover..I'd prefer not to know about their specific experiences, for obvious reasons.

So! Girls ... please, if you're willing to tell me about your experience(S) with anal sex .. what it was like for the first time, if it hurt, how to make the experience go well, whether you enjoyed it, hated it .. tips on how to do it to make the experience most pleasurable and comfortable ... anything and everything. I'd like to try it, but I'm quite nervous - what if it hurts like hell? Will he have things he'd rather not have on his penis? etc .. the questions you don't want to ask anyone else!!

ANy help would be great!!!

I'm quite nervous, but curious .. maybe you can dispell some of my doubts?

Thanks so much for being open!!

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Registered: 03-19-2003
Mon, 10-30-2006 - 12:14pm

Welcome to the board, HS.

 

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Registered: 09-25-2003
Mon, 10-30-2006 - 2:01pm
Lots of great advice so far! I think one of the key things I have seen when it was successful from the getgo is desire. As you read through the site that Jazz posted, as you look into it more, perhaps as you find time alone...key in on that area in thought and perhaps in deed and see if it spurns things inside of you. If you find that, let it grow. The desire gets you past the nervousness, gets you past thinking too much about it, gets you to great places. Good luck!
Always brings a tear of joy to my eye to see yet another considering expanding the pleasure her body can provide and experience! ;)
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Registered: 06-24-2006
Mon, 10-30-2006 - 7:32pm
Although it has been a long time since I did it, my ex was the first to introduce me to it. So when we did it for the first time, the key for me was be as relaxed as you possibly can, lots of lube, go slow, and only once you are comfortable then you can go further. might take a few times before you get that far, but you can enjoy the experience as you move along that path. But if it starts hurting, you need to stop, maybe wait a bit then try again. Trust in your partner is important and make sure he knows how far he can go and when he needs to stop..Good luck with it

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Registered: 10-29-2006
Tue, 10-31-2006 - 2:08am
How right you are,
Yeah, another tear to my eye too! I'm 33 and still trying to get this orgasm thing together. I mean I'm completely satisfied with our groove. Here I was thinking that I was O'ing, but he seems to think that I can't get one and wants to know why I shake so much. I must really be missing something. So the last few times, there were no shakes and no satisfaction but I guess I'm almost ready to try something new.
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Registered: 10-02-2006
Tue, 10-31-2006 - 2:17pm
Try doggie style or sort of spooning on your sides, and instead of him pushing in you do the pushing. My hubby lovs this ;-D And it should go without saying that 'he' should not be the first object in there ever, try one digit and work your way up. Lots of foreplay and it should be a fun experience!
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Thu, 11-02-2006 - 11:42am

Welcome to the board, creamy.

 

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Registered: 11-03-2006
Fri, 11-03-2006 - 8:05am

Anal can be such a pleasant & PLEASING experience when handled correctly! First of all, you kinda have to want it... if not, you're not relaxed and it will hurt. Breathing really & truly is key, breathe into the experience and focus on how amazing it feels and it will be VERY ENJOYABLE!!

Honestly, anal has become my new favorite!!! My husband loves it too, so it works out good for us, but more so for him I guess. I would say that it is definately an experience everyone should try, but only with someone you completely trust and you know they are "clean." Have Fun!!!!

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Fri, 11-03-2006 - 11:49pm
DH and I tried many times and I couldn't do it. It hurt too much. He's quite large and I'm quite small. But then he started just rubbing it and slowly his finger made it in (this is over several months). I still couldn't. Then we had a threesome and his friend who has a skinny one was able to get it in without lube. It was amazing and I came that way. We did the same thing the next day. After that DH and I tried but couldn't. I figured he was just too large for me. Then one day he started talking about his friend and how he would tell him that we could only do it again (me and his friend)if i let him(DH) do anal with me. Like magic it went in (with lube). I think it came from being so turned on and excited. I must say it was easier with his friend since he had a skinny one.
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Registered: 11-04-2006
Sat, 11-04-2006 - 5:56am

I've been having anal sex fairly regularly for about 2 years now and the orgasms I have from it are the best!

As posted earlier, relaxing is the biggest thing. But if you trust your partner and you like any type of finger or tongue action back there then you will really enjoy it. Just have a nice long foreplay session, have him loosen you up with finger(s) and/or tongue (its not as dirty as you think) and then whenever you are ready to try just take deep breaths and relax even more.

Right now I like being on top, it gives me more control, but when we first started I would either lay down or bend over the bed and let him control the pressure (I still gave directions - good, keep going, stop, hold it, nope, etc.) and of course lube is a must. However, you might be surprised to find out that you don't need as much lube if he soften his member up just a little when he goes to put it in. It goes in much nicer and when he swells up again, its easier for your body to adjust.

But please also know that just cause you do it sucessfully once or twice doesn't mean that it will be easy every time after that. Sometimes its easy and fantastic and sometimes I'm just too uptight because of work, family, etc. As long as you have someone who loves you and doesn't complain or make you feel bad when you say no to that then you should be able to successfully accomplish your goal, and you'll be surprised at how much you'll enjoy it!

Good Luck!

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Registered: 03-19-2003
Sat, 11-04-2006 - 9:36am

Welcome to the board, sexysunshine.

 

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