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| Mon, 11-06-2006 - 2:06pm |
How can I encourage DH to do this with me? Early on in our relationship, he was the one who brought this up as something he'd be interested in trying. I have done this with a different partner in the past and am open to it. Every time I try to initiate it though, he shies away. I don't know if he really wants to do it and is just nervous, or if he doesn't really want to do it and was blindsided by my wanting to. How should I feel him out about this?




Since he brought it up and said he was interested at one point, here's my idea for how to approach it ...
Do you ever use sex toys while he watches?
talk about taking the pressure off of trying to initiate that conversation with the porn idea...good one Jazz!
actually, both were banner!
I like Jazz's suggestions...let us know if you try any!
Hey welcome to the board Jennifer! Got some great ideas here! He might be a little shy after you had the baby. Some guys tend to backoff a little after that for some reason, but it's always a step in the right direction to talk about it!!!
Good luck!
Hi Aranel7,
As you said, he was the one who brought this up as something he'd be interested in trying. Why didnt you do it with him at that time? Have you refused to do it with him? Does he know that you have done it with a different partner in the past? When he brought it up, did you tell him what you think of anal sex? How did you initiate it? Are you sure he really knows what you want him to do? In my opinion, maybe he didnt get your initiation. He doesnt really know you are willing to try it with him. If he has no experience, he may scare of hurting you. However, I am pretty sure he also likes anal sex because he brought this up in the past. By the way, it is rare to find a man who doesnt want to try anal. Dont worry. There are thousand ways to seduce your man to do it with you. It is difficult to persuade a gal to try it for the 1st time, but it is very easy to seduce your shy guy to try it.
Jennifer,
I think Jazz's suggestions are great. If you guys watch porn together and you see and anal scene, just tell him you think that it's hot and ask him if he'd like to try it. When DW and I started anal play years ago, during foreplay I would be using my hand on her and would let my finger rub over and around her anus (I was a little afraid to just put it in) and one night she just put her hand on top of mine and guided my finger to her anus. This way I knew she really wanted it and from her reaction she really enjoyed it.