anal sex-embarassing moments?

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Registered: 01-22-2006
anal sex-embarassing moments?
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Sat, 11-11-2006 - 11:00pm
Okay,
So after having my 1st real anal sex experience a few days ago (he finished inside me) I have been preoccupied with "what if's" (what if I leaked on his penis..etc)
So please make me feel better and tell me if you have had any embarrassing moments...and guys....what would gross you out during anal sex?
Igrl
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Registered: 06-22-2006
Sun, 11-12-2006 - 9:06am
Hey Glad to hear you experenced this.... I have not as yet. But to answer your question about what would gross me out... Nothen.. If you are willing to do this you had better be ready for anything that might happen during and afterwards. Sharing this is a very exciting and erotic thing... Your SO is a very lucky man... My DW want even let me close to enjoying this with her. Guess I am going to have to find me a girlfriend... LOL
Hdog
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Registered: 12-01-2003
Sun, 11-12-2006 - 1:03pm

I've had really great experiences with anal (hope I didn't just jinx myself by saying that!) But for me, I think the biggest fear is the leaking part or possibly uncontrollable leaking. I do take precautions by trying to make sure I've gone so there is nothing that would be able to leak out if we do have it. Don't know if we've just been lucky or what. But That's really all you can do. And like the other person that replied said - both people have to be prepared that something like this might happen. You have to be comfortable enough with each other to get thru if it does. It's always a possibility.

Good luck!

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Registered: 01-22-2006
Sun, 11-12-2006 - 2:08pm
How do you guys think I should approach the subject with him? I think I just want peace of mind that nothing happened. Once he went to the bathroom to clean up, I was just scared S--- (LOL) that he may of gotten something on him.
Thanks!
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Registered: 10-18-2006
Sun, 11-12-2006 - 3:43pm
I wouldn't worry about it. Getting a little "dirty" is not uncommon. As has been discussed many times, cleanliness is important, but there is no way to ensure that absolutely no residual is left. DW and I enjoy anal quite often, and there have been times when I have found something on myself afterward. I have also felt something inside her and never said a word, just didn't thrust as deep. It's no big deal. If you are willing to play back there it will happen. So will involuntarily passing gas once he pulls out. Just laugh it off and move on. Him getting up to clean himself afterward is important and reduces the chance of getting an infection, especially if you are ready for a second round of vaginal or oral.
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Registered: 05-24-2003
Sun, 11-12-2006 - 3:45pm

I think he'd have to have SOMETHING on him. I mean, no matter HOW compulsive you are about keeping that area clean, there's bound to be SOMETHING there, I should think. Straight up front conversation is probably your best bet. If it were me (and I *do* get nervous with this kind of conversation, too, even after so many years together, so I understand!!), I'd say something like, "uh, y'know, uh, the other night was so great and I really want to keep doing it, but I gotta admit I'm a little nervous that you were, uh, soiled (dirty/messy/whatever) afterwards and that it may have yucked you out. Are you okay with the mess this makes???"

Good luck.

Lucky

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Registered: 10-28-2006
Mon, 11-13-2006 - 1:05am

Wow, some guys have all the luck... DW want consider or discuss this topic...It's just out of the question. just maybe... is there any way you know how i can change/luck into trying this? a few of my friend are into it and like it.

good luck!

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Registered: 01-22-2006
Mon, 11-13-2006 - 1:22am
Bow,
You know....I never considered it until we were in the "heat of the moment" and I was relaxed and tired from having intercourse. He asked, and I said sure....
I liked it. However, it was VERY, um, revealing.
Have you talked to it about her when the mood is light, she is relaxed? Maybe talking to her about some of her concerns, worries will help ease her mind some. I wish that we would of talked about it beforehand, because I think I would of enjoyed it more if we had. If he would of said before..."Nah, it won't gross me out if BY chance it got a little messy" I would of been even more relaxed. I know that having plenty of time preparing for it is of the utmost importance....(making sure she is clean, and comfortable-like not having the urge to go)
Good Luck!
Igrl
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Registered: 09-25-2003
Mon, 11-13-2006 - 6:27pm
personally I think it is incredibly cute that you are having this moment of embarrassment! Combined with luckyme's rendition of how she would approach it, I can only think of one thing to do, give a little chuckle, a nice hug, a slightly firm pat on the bottom and say "certainly not an issue here...when can we do it again!" LOL! Sex should be approached in a spirit of fun and even some giggling. You are handling this just fine, heck you were up for it spontaneously! Keep up that spirit and let him know you are feeling a bit funny about it. He'll understand...
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Registered: 10-28-2006
Tue, 11-14-2006 - 12:24am
thanks...