Woohoo... I'll join you! I've always wanted to ride a motorcycle. My brother is planning a bike trip for later this year.
Are there any courses near you on medicinal plants? It's pretty big here. Every few years, especially when the economy isn't going well, the government promotes the use of medicinal plants and urges people to plants these in their gardens.
I had planned to take a course in riding 13 years ago, but got pregnant with Jay. I think there might still be time though!! lol
I did a medicinal plant walk last weekend at a facility about an hour away. It was awesome! They offer lots of courses, but out of my price range right now. Maybe i just need to do some studying on my own.
I admire people who have the ability and eye to arrange flowers. There was an article in the NYTimes recently (Flower Arranging Finds a Younger Audience). I was thinking of printing it to save, but I really don't know whether I'd ever try my hand at this.
Do you regularly buy flowers?
What kind of hobby (or hobbies) would you think you'd enjoy?
And how are you? Have your son and future daughter-in-law made any progress with the visa process?
It's never too late!
Studying on your own sounds like a good plan. You can always take a course later on.
How to be a better parent.
How to control my anger.
thanks for the link!
It's sad but it's also part of our personal journey. Your been there and you've done that and now you are ready for something totally different! It could also be that you are so busy and stressed about the upcoming wedding that you are finding it difficult to focus on activities that need a lot of attention.
That's great that your DIL-to-be has gotten her papers and that the wedding will be in less than two weeks. That's such good news. Good luck, and feel free to come here to vent when you need to, or just for a cup of tea and conversation.
Those are two things that most people really do want to master.
Are there any parenting classes that you could take? Sometimes I think that there should also be "how to be good aunts and uncles" classes, too!
Do you have any good outlets for your anger? And have you read any books on anger management or gone to an anger management class?
My main problem with parenting, Poppy is that I live under a huge shadow cast by my late mom. She was a great disciplinetarian. Brought us up to be greatly independent and successful kids and we knew, inside, that she loved us. However, and specially with me as I am the eldest, she never showed that love.
I am almost 32, I never remember my mom giving me a hug, a kiss, telling me that she was proud of me, that I did a good job, reading a bedtime story to me, even when I asked her to. She would show up at PT meetings and hear all the brilliant remarks the teachers would say about me and yet fail to acknowldege them and I feel that now, after all these years, I am resenting her for it. I would hear her telling her friends over the phone how great I am, but never to my face.
Now I have DD and am consciously trying not to make the same mistake and not to withhold affection or love and yet, every now and then, things get too hard and I physically cannot give her the love I want to give. I feel myself drifting away, emotionally, even when I don't want to. I think to myself sometimes, in her four years, she got more love from me than what I got from my mom in the 13 years I had her. I know I sound selfish, but it's not that. It's like this sadness that overwhelms me.... I wish I could cure it, treat it. That is why I mentioned the parenting thing,.. because it is the battle I am going though at the moment.
You are already doing a superbe job, Suffy. It's normal for even the best parents to drift away at times - what is important is that when you catch yourself doing it, you focus again on your relationship with your daughter. Just like with meditation.
It looks like with you there are two things going on. The first is your sadness that your mother wasn't affectionate with you, and didn't show or tell you that she loved you. How old were you when she was diagnosed with cancer? You won't ever be able to forget this, and you shouldn't, but do you think that you could gradually release the hold that this has on you? If you were dong EFT, the set-up sentence as you tap the meridian to release the emotions would probably, "Even though my mother didn't show me her love, I deeply and completely accept myself." Maybe you can use this?
Don't let your mom's lack of affection burden or get in the way of your relationship with your daughter. You are a good mom, and you have a lot of love to give.
Little ones grow up tremendously fast. The four year old I hugged the other day is now a middle schooler, and the little baby with the porcupine hair is now a pretty 8 year old with long flowing locks. Find what helps and works for you. My nephew mostly does his homework with me, so that's "our" time together. When he comes here, he needs half an hour to unwind and breathe. This is the time we talk and connect. We've got other "our" times - once in a while we cook, go somewhere (zoo, mall, museum), etc. Each *is* a conscious effort, and each does start with an intention, because that helps me concentrate on him and us. Just my 2 cents ;-)