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Sat, 09-18-2010 - 12:36am

Just kinda lurking here in the 2ww from my last fresh IVF cycle - we have 2 on ice and then onto donor egg. This process is so hard. I have no idea what it is like to be pregnant - at 39 1/2. I did 1 fresh and 2 frozen when I was 28 years old and they didn't take either. I just hope, hope, hope that donor will work for us if this doesn't. . . I think I will be so devastated if not because for us this is our last step in this painful journey.

My RE in Phoenix tested me for PAI-1 and it was too high so had me on Heparin and Metformin. Finally this cycle RE here agreed to the Heparin.

Did a bunch of research today because I constantly have to have a plan B because I just can't accept not being able to give birth and have a child for myself and DH. Attain IVF program seems to the be way to go but there was one shared donor program that looked promising too - I'm in Orange County, CA - any advice for programs in this area? I'm totally depleting the last of my life savings for this - no insurance that covers infertility as a small business owner most of my adult life.

Am I crazy for starting this research while still in the 2ww - or just obsessed!!

Thank you for posting all your info - it is invaluable to those of us obsessed!
Rachel

Me 39 DH 38
TTC for 4 years (TTC for 3 years w/ex-husband adopted a now 10 year beautiful little girl from Russia)

2 failed IUI 2009 -
1st IVF January 10 negative after 3 perfect blast - one frozen
Feb 10 begged OB/Gyn to do surgery for "pain" to see if tubes blocked from PID back when I was 16 - yep both tubes blocked - unblocked 1 tube
May 10 IVF #2 - 3 eight cell transferred neg again
8/27/10 started stims for IVF #3 of 3-cycle package-last chance of fresh then do frozen - then donor
Trigger: 9/7/10
ER:9/8/10 - 9
ET: 9/13 - 3 embryos (2blast and 1 morela)
Beta: 9/23/10

Me 39 DH 38
TTC for 4 years (TTC for 3 years w/ex-husband adopted a now 10 year beautiful little girl from Russia)
2 failed IUI 2009-1st IVF January 10 negative after 3 perfect blast - one frozen Feb 10 begged OB/Gyn to do surgery for "pain" to see
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Registered: 02-11-2008
Thu, 09-23-2010 - 11:39pm
My FET was a bust; the embie didn't survive the thaw.

Isabel
Mom to Sebastian Robert after 3+ years of infertility

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Registered: 08-29-2010
Thu, 09-23-2010 - 9:16pm

Isabel - thank you - did you get preggo from that FET - or new donor/fresh?

Thanks!!
R

Me 39 DH 38
TTC for 4 years (TTC for 3 years w/ex-husband adopted a now 10 year beautiful little girl from Russia)
2 failed IUI 2009-1st IVF January 10 negative after 3 perfect blast - one frozen Feb 10 begged OB/Gyn to do surgery for "pain" to see if tubes blocked from PID back when I was 16 - yep both tubes blocked - unblocked 1 tube
May 10 IVF #2 - 3 eight cell transferred BFN again
September IVF#3
Trigger: 9/7/10 - ET: 9/13 - 3 embryos (2blast and 1 morela) Beta: 9/23/10 - BFN again!
Me 39 DH 38
TTC for 4 years (TTC for 3 years w/ex-husband adopted a now 10 year beautiful little girl from Russia)
2 failed IUI 2009-1st IVF January 10 negative after 3 perfect blast - one frozen Feb 10 begged OB/Gyn to do surgery for "pain" to see
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Registered: 02-11-2008
Thu, 09-23-2010 - 8:32pm
I'm so sorry Rachel.

Isabel
Mom to Sebastian Robert after 3+ years of infertility

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Registered: 08-29-2010
Thu, 09-23-2010 - 5:52pm

Thank you everybody for the warm welcome - looks like I will be here - another BFN - f*ck, f*ck, f*ck!! I hate this process and want to go to an option that give me more of a % of success.

I have 2 blast frozen - should I do that first - or move straight to donor? I can't handle another 2ww with a negative!! It is too hard emotionally and physically!!

Rachel

Me 39 DH 38
TTC for 4 years (TTC for 3 years w/ex-husband adopted a now 10 year beautiful little girl from Russia)

2 failed IUI 2009 -
1st IVF January 10 negative after 3 perfect blast - one frozen
Feb 10 begged OB/Gyn to do surgery for "pain" to see if tubes blocked from PID back when I was 16 - yep both tubes blocked - unblocked 1 tube
May 10 IVF #2 - 3 eight cell transferred neg again
8/27/10 started stims for IVF #3 of 3-cycle package-last chance of fresh then do frozen - then donor
Trigger: 9/7/10
ER:9/8/10 - 9
ET: 9/13 - 3 embryos (2blast and 1 morela)
Beta: 9/23/10

Me 39 DH 38
TTC for 4 years (TTC for 3 years w/ex-husband adopted a now 10 year beautiful little girl from Russia)
2 failed IUI 2009-1st IVF January 10 negative after 3 perfect blast - one frozen Feb 10 begged OB/Gyn to do surgery for "pain" to see
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Registered: 05-28-2008
Tue, 09-21-2010 - 5:50pm

I'm in Calif too - LA county, but I only did a small bit of research on donor egg because as soon as we saw the $$ we knew we couldn't swing it.



 BabyFruit Ticker

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Registered: 08-29-2010
Sun, 09-19-2010 - 12:20pm
Thanks Spencer and Isabel!

Me 39 DH 38
TTC for 4 years (TTC for 3 years w/ex-husband adopted a now 10 year beautiful little girl from Russia)

2 failed IUI 2009 -
1st IVF January 10 negative after 3 perfect blast - one frozen
Feb 10 begged OB/Gyn to do surgery for "pain" to see if tubes blocked from PID back when I was 16 - yep both tubes blocked - unblocked 1 tube
May 10 IVF #2 - 3 eight cell transferred neg again
8/27/10 started stims for IVF #3 of 3-cycle package-last chance of fresh then do frozen - then donor
Trigger: 9/7/10
ER:9/8/10 - 9
ET: 9/13 - 3 embryos (2blast and 1 morela)
Beta: 9/23/10

Me 39 DH 38
TTC for 4 years (TTC for 3 years w/ex-husband adopted a now 10 year beautiful little girl from Russia)
2 failed IUI 2009-1st IVF January 10 negative after 3 perfect blast - one frozen Feb 10 begged OB/Gyn to do surgery for "pain" to see
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Registered: 02-11-2008
Sat, 09-18-2010 - 9:29am

Keeping everything crossed that you don't need to take the next step to DE and that this cycle will be successful for you.

Isabel
Mom to Sebastian Robert after 3+ years of infertility

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Registered: 11-29-2005
Sat, 09-18-2010 - 6:55am

I will be crossing all crossables that you won't need to join us here b/c of your impending BFP!!!



But this is a great resource and I'm glad you joined us :)



I'm Spencer, 42 almost 43.

 


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