So, DH had his Urology appt today.
Megan - You are soooo not alone there! I wanted to cry yesterday when my mother said, yet again, that it's okay and we could just adopt. It is a wonderful thing to adopt but it isn't the same thing as being able to experience motherhood ourselves. I feel exactly the same way - I want to have my own biological children. I want a child that looks like me and DH. I'm lucky that my DH feels the same way I do about that. He wants his own kids and so he's willing to do what we need to to reach that goal.Heather
~ TTC since 2007~ BFP May 2009 after 2nd cycle of clomid~ MC July 2009~ IUIs starting April 2010~ Weak BFP April 2010
~ Meron born 12-09-11 after 3 1/2 years of TTC, IUIs and IVF.~ #2 on the way(!) and due 06-06-13.
Oh, thank you ladies, so very much.
Megan, that really stinks. I am so sorry the news was not good, but I suppose it helps to know because you can develop a plan. I think it is awesome that your DH said he would do the surgery for you. My partner was not as gung ho about having a natural child as I was, but when he saw how much it meant to me, he was willing to do a lot, in fact, more than I expected him to do. I would at least look into the surgery and see what the success rates are and how difficult the procedure is in terms of the surgery itself and the recovery. I know I would want my partner to do it, even if it felt a little selfish.
Big hugs to you!
I'm sorry you're feeling so down and frustrated today.
TTC #1 since Feb '09 with Unexplained Infertility: SA's all ok; b/w and HSG ok; Lap Mar '10 - mild endo on outside of right tube/uterus removed but not consideredÂ eno
Don't feel too discouraged and don't feel alone... we knew before we got started with a fertility doctor less than a month ago that my husband has sperm issues... and with a little testing on my part, now we also know that I have issues.
Oh Megan I am SO sorry the appointment did not go as planned. I do not think it is selfish at all to want to be pregnant. I feel the same way. I am constantly scared that I won't get that feeling. I know that there is adoption and I know if biological children are not for us then that is what we will do. However I know that it will crush me not to get that chance. I do not think wanting that makes your adopted twins any less special.
It is hard to feel alone in this. My DH does not understand my desire to carry a child either. He believes however we get children is fine enough. In my heart I know I would love them but we cannot help that.
I know IF is so hard. Hopefully you and your DH can decide what is best for you guys.
"Even miracles take a little time." ~ Fairy Godmother: Cinderella
TTC since April 2009
M/C (chemical pregnancy)