sad, frustrated, and depressed

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-26-2010
sad, frustrated, and depressed
Sun, 09-26-2010 - 2:51am

*sigh* My apologies, but this will definitely be a vent.

I'm so sad right now.

I have been having a really good month of not thinking about the fact that we STILL don't have a baby. A bit of background - I went off the pill in January 09 and we started trying in April 09. Still no baby. We've both been through a battery of tests and are completely healthy. but still no baby. to top it off, my cycle is so erradic that I've only had two days without my period since the beginning of July - but hormonally and physically there is supposedly nothing wrong with me.

My doctor has referred me to a specialist, but the guy she referred me to has a history of being rough and insensitive. So I asked for a new referral - nothing yet ( and that was over a month ago).

So, the month has been going pretty well - started a new job and love it! So I haven't been thinking too much about the baby (or the fact that we can't even try right now). Then today both my mother and mother-in-law were over. Of course the talk goes to my brother's kids, and about "well, when you have kids"... and I tried not to get upset.

We had made it very clear to everyone that we were going to be trying to have a baby as soon as we were married (July 09), so I assumed that they would be smart enough to realise that that's a really long time to not be pregnant yet and keep their mouths shut.

As the day went on I started feeling worse and worse about the situation - I had a good cry this evening, but I'm now the only one awake and I'm feeling rotten! I just feel empty. My nephew called to talk to me tonight - and I could hear his baby sister babbling in the background and it nearly killed me.

All either of us want is a baby and for some reason it isn't happening and I feel useless, hopeless, and broken. Part of me just wants to let the dream die, and try to move on, but another part knows that I can't move on from it. Ever since I was a little girl I wanted to be a mommy, and it just shouldn't be this hard!

I'm going to go now - sorry for the long post. I can barely see the computer screen through the tears... thanks for listening.

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-13-2010
Sun, 09-26-2010 - 11:31am

I am so sorry about what you are going through. I would call your doctor again about a new referral, and keep calling the doctor until you get your referral. You know the squeaky wheel...

I will be H&P for you and your hubby.


TTC since August 2008. Unknown infertility

IUI w/ Clomid #1 September 2009 , BFP with twins in October, miscarriage at 8 weeks 1 day and 8 weeks 3 days

IUI w/ Clomid #2 February 2010, no luck there.

IUI w/ Clomid #3 March 2010, BFN

IUI w/ Clomid #4 April 2010,BFP chemical pregnancy.

IUI w/ Injectables #1 May 2010, BFP with twins and very good beat numbers. Heart beats in the 160's

Due date 1/28/2011.

We're having a baby boy and baby girl.

iVillage Member
Registered: 06-22-2010
Sun, 09-26-2010 - 11:52am

I am sending BIG HUGS to you!

Kelly (31) DH (32) TTC Since June 2009 August 2007 - Myomectomy - removed large fibroid on back of uterus January 2010 - HSG reveals "possible" blocked left tube March 2010 - First RE visit (PCOS secondary to CAH diagnosed) April 2010 - October 2010
iVillage Member
Registered: 11-02-2009
Sun, 09-26-2010 - 12:46pm

I'm so sorry you're feeling so down right now.


TTC #1 since Feb '09 with Unexplained Infertility: SA's all ok; b/w and HSG ok; Lap Mar '10 - mild endo on outside of right tube/uterus removed but not considered eno

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-22-2009
Mon, 09-27-2010 - 12:21pm

I'm sorry you are feeling down... I hope you start feeling better soon.

Finally pregnant after 3 yrs of ttc and 3 losses. Lilypie Pregnancy tickers EDD: 9/18/11