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ANTICIPATION
| Wed, 11-17-2004 - 12:19pm |
One of the best pieces of advice I ever got from a psychiatrist was:
Don't ANTICIPATE
We always anticipate what MIGHT happen...what COULD happen tomorrow...in an hour...next week...next year...we spend so much time anticipating, that it causes our anxiety to rise and we miss out on THIS MOMENT in time. And once the moment is gone, we NEVER get it back.
This is something big that I have to work on.
This psychiatrist was one of the best I've ever seen, but he was one I saw while I was inpatient and he was a "travelling" psychiatrist and was only filling in for a doctor on vacation.
I need to print that somewhere that I can see it, because I anticipate ALL THE TIME!

Keli,
My question is simple. You say you have to work on certain aspects of your life. Why am I unable to do that? Could I have a personality disorder as well? I'm scared, and I'm very worried about going mad.
Carla
Honey...I am JUST NOW able to work on my life. JUST NOW...at 34 years old, am I able to do this. I've been struggling for over 3 years with my bipolar disorder. I was told in the hospital that I had a personality disorder along with bipolar disorder, but I don't believe it, or accept it. I am who I am. I am me, with Bipolar.
You aren't able to work on your life right now, because you're not stable enough to do so. Your meds aren't working. You're depressed, severely. But you're not mad, I promise. You're only sick. And until you get better, change is going to be very difficult for you. Not impossible mind you. But difficult.
Just three months ago, I thought my life was over. I WANTED my life to be over. Depression controlled my every waking moment. I had no cycles of mania at all, to even bring me up for a little while. I was locked in a world of darkness with no hope in sight. I got help from my pdoc, as I mentioned to you in my post below.
Can't your pdoc see you on an emergency basis??? This is definitely an emergency that warrants his immediate attention. I would call the office.
Take everything an hour or a second at a time. Anything else is going to overwhelm you and make you feel worse.
I'll check back soon.
Hugs,
Keli
Keli,
This is SO true, especially since I and a lot of other BP folks I know take it to the negative of extreme of catastrophizing.
I'm getting better, but it's a constant battle!
Marci
You know what else comes with anticipation?
Anticipation = Expectations
Expectations = Let Downs
~The Worlds A Roller Coaster And I Am Not
Strapped In.