My mom, update
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| Wed, 11-24-2004 - 1:29am |
Ok, well, from everyone's advice, as well as the advice of some girls on my other board, this is what I'm going to do.
I would like to help my mom, like, seriously help her. I would like meds for her, if that's what helps, group therapy, something to make her the mom I used to have, which would help me and my physical and mental health greatly. Since I can't use my dad as a source, or her sister, or my 15yo brother, no one can help me here, I'm going to go to the source. Tomorrow I have an appointment with our family Dr, the one that I believe diagnosed her as manic-depressive in the first place, or at least referred her to someone who did, and while I'm really going for me (a one month follow-up), I'm going to bring it up with him. Maybe he can talk to her about *whatever* it is that's making her moody.
I can understand (only barely) about the "not liking the bf" situation, but IMO, that's purely an unwillingness to let her daughter grow up. The moodiness is either from a serious mental health problem (as my psychologist suggested), or perimenopause / menopause, so either way, I think he should talk to her the next time she comes in to his office. I mean, here's an example of what I'd call her craziness: she called the Dr's office demanding that he tell her what was on my file, and when he wouldn't because of confidentiality, she drove down there to yell and him, creating a scene. That's completely abnormal, so I think he needs a heads up as to this not being a "we don't like your bf" problem, but a hormonal problem.
Is this the right thing to do? I feel bad talking about her, but I'd like her to get some help. I need a normal mother to accept my bf, and with her moodiness, the one thing I'm wanting to do is run away from her, to not talk to her at all.
-Lauren

Lauren,
I hope your family doc will talk to you about her--unfortunately that confirdentiality thing can bite both ways and gets in the way of an honest effort to help someone.