I actually may have a date...

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Registered: 04-02-2003
I actually may have a date...
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Mon, 11-29-2004 - 1:59pm

Most of you know of my horrible life with my xhusband. Well, yesterday we got into an argument and I told him to go fly a kite, today he may lose his truck, and it is NOT my fault, but I still feel guilty. But....I'm working through the whole thing. I spoke to my Mom after the fight, she said all I was doing was sitting around doing nothing and waiting for him to come crawling back to me. She also reminded me that he is dating someone and when he comes back I'd take him back and beg him to forget the other lady, which is exactly what I've done in the past. My Mom told me point blank, get off your a** and get out of that apartment and find a good man, she said they are everywhere, if you know what you are looking for.

Well.....I'm not a bar girl, hate to dance, etc...

Then I was flipping through the tv and came across the Pittsburg Steelers football game and I remembered a very nice man who use to deliver things to my office and remembered how he use to flirt with me. I knew him prior to his deliveries, he use to date a co-worker of mine. When he use to come up here with deliveries I'd seek him out and he'd shower me with compliments and all the good stuff. I use to tell him there is a thin line between sencerity and bullsh*t. All my g/fs say he is what I need.......well we'll see.

We spoke for 30 some minutes and again, he was so sweet. He's an avid hunter (YUCK) so it may be a while before the date, but I have the china out and the candlesticks on the table. I'm hoping I'm ready to move on. Xdh has, his lady is suppose to be gorgeous. Well I think this fella is cute...I have no idea what may happen....but I'm willing to try. I'm worried though.........should I tell him right off "I may have some severe mood swings around you, I'm bipolar" I mean how do you bring up this subject? I want to be honest with him..............OMG.............I need yall......big time.
HUGS
Carla

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Registered: 03-20-2003
Mon, 11-29-2004 - 4:00pm

Hiya Carla! :o)


Great news that you are and have been moving on without xdh...I'm really proud of you!!!


As for telling the new guy that you are bp.....don't sweat it and let it happen over time. I never tell people right off the bat.....it helps break the stigma of us being "crazies" and what not. People get to know us first, find that we too are just people and THEN they find out about our bp and are usually shocked to find out.


Being bipolar shouldn't make you feel the need to start confessing it to other people unless you feel comfy doing it. Would you tell him you have high blood pressure if you had to take blood pressure pills? Eventually if you got to know him well enough you would, but not right out front. There's really no need to tell him such. Well, I think it stands the same with being bipolar. Tell him when you get to know him and vice versa. People are afraid of the unknown.....but when they come to know you they aren't afraid anymore.


Hope that helped! Keep us posted on whats happening with him, okay?


*hugs*


Peace, Love and Healing,


~Teri~

~The Worlds A Roller Coaster

~The Worlds A Roller Coaster And I Am Not 

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Registered: 03-25-2003
Mon, 11-29-2004 - 4:17pm

I totally agree with what Teri said...I wouldn't tell him that you're BP right now...that can wait...be patient...don't rush into anything, and good luck!

Hugs,

Keli

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Registered: 04-02-2003
Mon, 11-29-2004 - 4:53pm
Thank you both so much. I will follow your advice. I'm nervous, not really sure how it will all work out, but I'm anxious to see how it starts. =o)
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Registered: 09-01-2004
Mon, 11-29-2004 - 6:03pm

Carla,


Good for you taking that first step, just remember that is a FIRST step and that he is not a prospective lifemate or bridegroom --save that at least until the 2nd or 3rd date!