am i being helpful here???

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Registered: 10-04-2004
am i being helpful here???
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Sat, 12-11-2004 - 10:37am

gee, it's been relatively quiet on the board this week. i hope that means that everyone is doing well (and/or busy getting ready for the various holidays!).


something has been bothering me the past coupld of days, and i need to get it out and get some feedback. i think i may be giving too much advice instead of support and i wanted to know if that was bothering anyone (although I try to share my own experience, stregnth and hope - yes I go to 12 step meetings! - rather than just preaching0.


anyway, if anyone has any thoughts on this, please let me know. I'm actually in a good space right now, don't now how long it will last, but trying not to project, and wanting to be there for everyone while I am. but maybe with my hypomania and caretaker style, i'm going to far. please let me know if i am. i want to be helpful, not a pain in the butt!

peace and love,


just_a_big_kid


Sue

peace and love,

just_a_big_kid

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Sat, 12-11-2004 - 11:07am
p.s. I just want to make it clear to everyone - I'm really not just looking for praise or validation, i want honest answers! i'm in a good mood, so i can take constuctive criticism (LOL!).

peace and love,


just_a_big_kid


Sue

peace and love,

just_a_big_kid

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Registered: 04-02-2003
Sat, 12-11-2004 - 3:07pm

Sue,

I can't speak for everyone but I appreciate any advice/support, etc... It helps to know I'm not alone and advice is what I need a lot of the time anyway, some times more so than support. I've made this horrible bed that I am now in alone and I have a great deal of work ahead of me. I have no idea what my beliefs, dreams, etc are because I lived my life through xdh.

I feel you do help a whole bunch, please don't stop.......I for one need ya.

(((((HUGS)))))
Carla

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Sat, 12-11-2004 - 7:21pm

Ditto. You're doing fine by me.

~Beth

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Sat, 12-11-2004 - 8:37pm

Sue,

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Sun, 12-12-2004 - 9:30am
Thanks everyone. I caught myself being a little too "preachy" yesterday on another board, but "talked" it out with the woman who posted, and all is well. I'm fairly insecure and neurotic (and gee, I'm sure I'm the only one - LOL), and sometimes have trouble with boundaries, so i was just doing a reality check. Thanks for your kind words.

peace and love,


just_a_big_kid


Sue

peace and love,

just_a_big_kid