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I am not sure if this is the right place
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Fri, 01-21-2005 - 5:40pm

This is probably going to be long and I apologize for that up front.


My h may have bi polar. I say may because unfortunatly I can't believe a word that comes out of his mouth. He lies about so much and most the time he doesn't need too. He goes to extremes to get what he wants. To me it seemed like he wants to be bi polar because that would explain everything and isn't happy with it just being a mood disorder. I don't know what to think or where to turn.


We have been married for 12 years. He has been abusive off and on pretty much since the beginning. I didn't realize this at first but since I have things have gotten worse. He hasn't hit me in 4 years but the emotional and verbal abuse are bad.


He has for the last year said he needed help and finally on October 31st he went to the local ER were he told them he tried to kill him self by taking about 25 colidine (grrr I can't spell, its used for blood pressure in some and my DS takes it to help him sleep but H did take his own bottle of it) that did nothing to him. He was in their behavioral health lock in unit for 5 days and then spent 5 days at the state physiatric hospital. He hasn't been stable since coming home. It is the same things of me not knowing what is going to set him off. Him losing it often and severely. On Christmas he threatened to rape me. He swears that wasn't what he meant but the words he used were used by someone else that was accused of raping someone. Was the second time he used those words to me.


No Dr he has seen has told me bi polar the only thing I was told was from the first hospital that he wasn't consistent with bi polar and they were treating the symptoms. She thought it was more of a mood disorder. At the second hospital I never talked to the DR but the social worker agreed that he goes to extremes to get his way. She wasn't sure what he was being treated for and never got back to me. She also told me he has abondment issues stemming from his childhood, which I can see why he does and that would explain the constant reassurance he seems to need from me that I love him and am not going anywhere and why he goes to extremes to get those.


I do not know how to help him. He says he just needs my love and affection but I can't give it to him right now. This makes things worse. He went in today for a med check and had his meds changed. I told him I needed a Dr to tell me what is going on with him before I can believe it. He told me the DR told him today they haven't labeled him bi polar because it could cost him his job. Do Drs really do that type of thing?


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Tue, 01-25-2005 - 11:47pm
its ok he wont see it so no harm =).

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