What a lovely way to start my day Trigs?

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What a lovely way to start my day Trigs?
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Thu, 01-27-2005 - 3:24am

Hi all,


I am so angry right now. I have been cutting out drama and gossip that floats around military housing like wild fire. I have been distancing myself from all the

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Thu, 01-27-2005 - 12:16pm

Hi Cyn,

It sound to me like your being used and abused! Not by the girls mother, because she has no control over this other lady, but by the other nieghbor. You are a very nice person for taking up the slack so the girl is safe and warm while her Mom's in class.

I was a military wife from 19 to 35. I changed husbands but they were in the military. It actually took me a while to adjust to civilian life. (My husband is a civilian with the AF.)I know exactly what you mean about the drama and gossip. It's a way of life! I'm glad to hear you made a choice to stay out of it as much as possible. That's a big step to getting well. It finds a way to our door step sometimes no matter what we do. Remember you are by far the bigger person here and it will all be over after today.

Love,

Jamie

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Thu, 01-27-2005 - 1:40pm

OMG...you are so NOT over reacting. I know it is worse than a soap opera on military bases, been there too. I think you are a GREAT gal for helping the girls mom. But I would surely tell her what the other lady did. This way if she is asked a favor from the lazy one, she'll know better to oblige her.

You are totally in the right. I would be so mad I'd have to yell. But mostly I let my mouth get me into fights so I have to watch myself, a verbal fight won't end for me. I'm so not afraid of confrontation that I would end up being in a huge battle. You are doing the right thing.
(((((HUGS)))))
Carla

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Thu, 01-27-2005 - 2:27pm

Hi Cyn. Gossip on military bases is horrible. I sometimes think there must be nothing better for some of those ladies to do with their time.

I have to agree with Carla that you should tell the child's mother, though I would do it so that she doesn't leave her child with that one neighbor again. She certainly sounds like an unreliable and unkind person, and I know that as a mom, I'd never leave my child with such a person if I was aware of their behavior. You're a good person, and kind for helping out with the little girl while her mom is in school, and you are obviously taking good care of her. Believe me, I understand getting furious about situations like that, but it'll do you no good at all, and you being angry will not have any negative effect on the other neighbor. Pity her. She must be an unhappy and ignorant person to behave the way she has! :)

It's good to see a post from you! I hope the rest of your day is better.

(((Hugs)))
Kristen

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Thu, 01-27-2005 - 6:48pm

Hi Jamie,


Thank you for the response. I am feeling a little less angry now.

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Thu, 01-27-2005 - 6:52pm

Hi Carla,
Thank you for the response.
I did tell the little girl's mom and she apologized for the way things went today. I told her there was no reason for her to. I am a little less angry since I vented to my husband when he got off of work.


How are you doing?
Take care.


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Thu, 01-27-2005 - 6:59pm

Hi Kristen,


Thank you for the reply. I did tell the little girls mom today. She apologized for the way things went,and I told her not to. I am doing a little better now, I vented to Rick when he came home. He hates it when people stress me out or pi$$ me off. I don't have the temperament needed to put up with other people's crap. I am known for saying exactly what I think

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