Home Sweet Home

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Registered: 08-23-2003
Home Sweet Home
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Sun, 02-13-2005 - 1:29pm

Well, my daddy came out of surgery like a champion. I couldn't believe how GOOD he looked in comparison to how he was supposed to look. It was a major relief. However, my mom went completely insane on wednesday. If we weren't at the hospital, she was bawling. Not a joke....she cried when she woke up, cried while she ate lunch, cried when we got in the car to leave the hosptial and cried when we got back to her place until she went to bed. I dunno how I managed to NOT flip out on her. I really wanted to. Everything she was crying about pertained to her feeling sorry for herself and being completely maxxed out about things that haven't happened and if they do happen she CANNOT control them. She blubbered to my dad while he was in CV-ICU and then more when he was just on the Cardio Vascualar unit. On Friday, she was hollaring at him and his blood pressure went through the roof. SO I decided we needed to leave the hosptial for my dad's sake (he told us to leave as well) and after we left he had a seizure. My mom is so depressed....it's ridiculous. She's taking Wellbutrin but she's not even at the therapeutic doseage. It's so bad that she even TOLD me to come take her shirt off for her. I was pretty much beside myself. She didn't do a single thing for herself the whole time I was there, and now she needs to take care of my dad????? YAH RIGHT! I'm sorta grateful that my dad had this seizure....he was doing so remarkably well that they were going to send him home on Saturday.....BAD IDEA! (cause of my mother) so this seizure/episode that he had will prevent him from going home for a few more days. For this I am grateful....he doesn't need the stress of my mother crying all the time and hollaring at him for being "an active person". His activities aren't what clogged his arteries....his love for junk food did. She sits on her butt all day and feels sorry for herself and now thats what she wants my dad to do too....that'll literally kill him....he can't handle the stress that she puts on him and the way she behaves herself, so he is an active person in the community as a means to get away from the insanity that she instills.

I understand depression, I suffer from it 99.9% of the time.....but I have NEVER seen anything like what I was forced to live with for this past week. Even when I was in the ward....people weren't THAT bad. We all seem to have this ability to "make face" when necessary....but she wouldn't/couldn't even do that for my dad while he is in this fragile time for his heart. I'm outraged and so angry and bitter. I feel bad for feeling this way, but I cannot help it.

Anyways, this CRAP isn't even half of the havoc and maddness that started for me two fridays ago.....and it's still going. I think I'm going to go out tonite and just hang with some friends for a while. I miss my kids, but xdh is making me miserable. i.e. yesterday on the way home from the airport, HE locked the keys in the car but according to him......well....I DID IT! So no sooner was I home and he was chewing me out for something I hadn't done. Same crap, different day. He even knows the whole story of the insanity I've been dealing with...but that didn't stop him from being nasty to me.

ohhhhhh....I love my life!

The Worlds A Roller Coaster

And I Am Not Strapped In

Maybe I Should Hold With Care

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Registered: 12-20-2004
Sun, 02-13-2005 - 4:01pm

Hi Earthchild,

I just want to stop and say welcome home.

What you've been through sounds horrible. I can't imagine all the stress on you and your Dad. Then adding the x on top of it. I'm amazed you're still up and walking and not in a bed yourself. I guess that says something about how good you're doing right now. Pat yourself on the back.

{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{HUGS}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}

Love,

Jamie

Love,

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Registered: 11-18-2003
Sun, 02-13-2005 - 4:21pm

{{{{teri}}}} first let me say i'm glad your dad came through the surgery so well and am glad you were able to be with him. i'm sorry about the other stuff you had to put up with from your mom and your ex.

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Registered: 09-01-2004
Sun, 02-13-2005 - 5:22pm

Teri,


I'm so glad your dad came through the surgery okay--his being active probably helped stave off the effects of the junk food for a while and will definitely help in his recovery--especially if he moderates his junk food intake going foward.

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Sun, 02-13-2005 - 11:42pm

Teri, I'm sorry your mom is causing so much stress for you and your dad...as Marci said, she may not be able to help it...but knowing that probably doesn't make it any easier to deal with!

I'm glad that your dad made it through all right...hopefully cutting back on the junk food will help if he can manage to do that. I really admire you for hanging in there through all this stress...I hope things will improve for you and your parents as well.

Hugs,
Rose