DS IN JAIL
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| Sun, 02-13-2005 - 6:06pm |
I'M IN ALL CAPS DUE TO ACAST ON MY RIGHT HAND.
MY ODS, AGE 24, IS BIPOLAR AND HAS OTHER UNDIAGNOSED ISSUES, POSSIBLY A PERSONALITY DISORDER. HIS FATHER ABUSED ME UNTIL I DIVORCED HIM WHEN MY DS WAS 18. SO, DS SPENT ALL THOSE YEARS LEARNING HOW "NORMAL" THAT IS.
HE IS IN JAIL FOR ASSAULTING HIS GF. THEY BOTH HAD RESTRAINING ORDERS AGAINST ONE ANOTHER FROM DECEMBER AND A SIMILAR INCIDENT. HIS MARRIAGE OF TWO YEARS WAS THE SAME EXCEPT THAT SHE NEVER REPORTED IT EVEN THOUGH I TOLD HER SHE SHOULD.
THIS TIME, HE WAS ARRESTED. HE TOLD HER TO LEAVE. SHE CAME BACK TWO HOURS LATER AND STARTED THE FIGHT. I AM NOT EXCUSING HIS BEHAVIOR HERE! HE PUSHED HER AWAY SEVERAL TIMES. HE THEN GRABBED HER BY THE BACK OF HER NECK AND SHOVED HER OUT THE DOOR. (THIS INFO IS FROM A THIRD PARTY W/ NO


Steph,
I've got mixed emotions on this one--due to the previous suicide attempts I'd almost say he's better off in jail where he'll be safe, but he seems to be just as wronged (or more so) in this one, as wrong and let's face it jail is not the most therapeutic environment, or the safest.
Steph,
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I have no experience with this or anything simular.
Is your son on his meds? The reason I ask is I can tell how my best friend is handling a very simular situation. Her son is schitzophernic. He assaulted someone. He refuses his meds so she is not supporting him. She has gotten Him help in the past but now he refuses to help himself no matter what she's tried.
He is in Florida and she is in Texas. Her first thought was to go out there and hire him a lawyer. After some serious thought she thought better of it. She decided that he has to take responsiblity for his disease and the problems that stem from not taking care of it.
Now I'm not saying she dropped him like a hot potato to fend for himself. She is in contact with his public defender and has informed the system that he is schitzophrenic. She is in contact with him on a regular basis when he can call her. She has provided him a phone card to do this. He is in his 30's and this isn't the first time he's been in trouble. She loves him very much and has gone into debt personally over him but, it finally had to stop. She is in her 60's and in poor health so he's going to have to learn to take care of his disease and himself.
Now remember this is just the experience of my best friend. I'm not saying you have to adopt her path. I just wanted you to know how someone else handled the same situation. It is important to remember he IS sick.
Love,
Jamie
Love,
Good Luck!
Carla