Help me help him, please!
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Help me help him, please!
| Mon, 02-21-2005 - 10:34am |
If you have any ideas on how i should be handling my situation, please please i would love to hear from you. I wrote an earlier message
thank you so much!
i'm feeling so anxious about this whole thing, and now know i have to talk to him later...do i just let things go until he start perking up again?

Hi!
Personally if you want to talk to him about getting help you need to do it when he's calmed down.
Love,
Thank you so much for your reply! Well nothing has really gotten better...he is completely down in the dumps right now and whenever I start being proactive about him wanting to leave and I suggest talking about the plans, he blows up. Right before Christmas time, we went through the same thing - he actually told me how depressed he way, mentioned a lot of self esteem issues and told me that at times he thinks about not living anymore.
Last night, I spoke with his mother and she actually told me that their family doctor had told him he should seek some professional help for his anger issues...this way over 10 years ago, and his mother also mentioned that he has always had big swings in his emotions, since he was a child. Now, she is the one in the family who is bipolar...but this is a family that does not discuss issues like this.
Right now i feel like the only thing I can do, is let him go through this pain by himself...I leave a little note here and there, saying a kind word. He's actually in the habit this week to come home after we're in bed, and leave before we get up. It's like he absolutely cannot face us...
i'm soooo confused! Does this all sound like behaviour you have witnessed or perhaps even acted out, and if so...what do you think was/is the best way to handle it for the family or loved one standing by helplessly.
J.