I did it

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Registered: 03-26-2010
I did it
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Sat, 09-11-2010 - 11:53pm

I blocked him on my phone and email.

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Registered: 02-25-2010
In reply to: janejosie
Sun, 09-12-2010 - 12:54am

Congrats Janie



No more fretting over your grammar and dangly modifiers then ...... focus on you, you're

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Registered: 04-08-2009
In reply to: janejosie
Sun, 09-12-2010 - 1:28am

"I had been putting it off, mostly becuase I felt like a fool for ending things every month just about. I do feel bad about not giving him any explanation, but truthfully, he's heard it all before not that long ago. He'll know what's going on."

Oh honey, I could have written that same thing about my experience . . . I seriously "ended" things no less than 50 times before I truly ENDED. I was the definition of the Girl Who Cried Wolf. I think my XAP is probably still waiting for the day when I break NC and come texting or emailing back to him . . .

You don't owe him an explanation. And yes, if you're anything like me, he's heard it all before. A thousand times over.

Silence speaks louder than ANY words could at this point.

Welcome to the board . . . hang in there. Endings are tough, I ain't gonna lie . . . but it gets better, and you've found a wonderful community of support.

Make this your LAST ending, k? :) You can do this--blocking him from any avenues of communication is a GREAT start. Just keep it that way.

-Juliette

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Registered: 04-11-2010
In reply to: janejosie
Sun, 09-12-2010 - 3:46am

JANIE!!!!!!!!



GO YOU!!!!! How bloody great- Im so glad you are here too! Well not glad you are hurting but glad you have stopped the rollercoaster- its just so bloody exhausting!



I am here with you. We'll get through!!! Did he ever respond to your email?



IggyXX

You are what you consistently do
You are what you consistently do
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Registered: 02-25-2010
In reply to: janejosie
Sun, 09-12-2010 - 7:12am

Iggy.



slap your wrists............

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Registered: 04-11-2010
In reply to: janejosie
Sun, 09-12-2010 - 7:21am

ooops I should explain- this was an email Janie sent her xAP weeks ago. Janie and I were on MAS together.

You are what you consistently do
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Registered: 02-25-2010
In reply to: janejosie
Sun, 09-12-2010 - 8:11am

maybe we should change your moniker to 'its all about me' ............



lucky you're with AAMI ....do you get that ad?

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Registered: 06-17-2010
In reply to: janejosie
Sun, 09-12-2010 - 9:22am

Hi JJ -

Welcome to EAS :) You're off to a good start by blocking him.

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It doesn't have to be eloquent, just a simple "I'm finished, don't contact me anymore" will do. Disappearing has worked for some enders - it didn't work for me. It spurred numerous hateful voice mails until I finally had to say those words. No matter what, remember that silence will only work if you REMAIN silent. NC, no question, no matter what.

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I didn't either. I just started reading everything I could on EAS, so make sure you do that - especially the Healing Library.

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The bad news is, there's a pretty good chance he'll try to contact you when he wants his "fix". You need to prepare yourself for that.

Take it one moment at a time right now. We're all here for you.

Bodhi

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Registered: 03-26-2010
In reply to: janejosie
Sun, 09-12-2010 - 9:33am

LOL!

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Registered: 03-26-2010
In reply to: janejosie
Sun, 09-12-2010 - 9:35am
Oh, and Iggy, you really did give me a big push to do this for real.
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In reply to: janejosie
Sun, 09-12-2010 - 9:43am

Thanks for the words of wisdom, Bodhi.

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