Wow, I never knew how much pain...
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| Tue, 09-14-2010 - 12:06am |
Well, I came here with a question about what to do about this guy friend of mine that I have feelings for and was struggling with. I am glad I did! I declined getting involved with him when he made the move and it was the best decision I EVER made.
I have been reading your stories and the pain and suffering and while I am incredibly sad for everyone, I am grateful that some kind of miracle ( that would be me playing hard to get) intervened to keep me from taking that final leap.
I realize that because I have feelings for him and that since he made an attempt to become involved with me, that even the guise of friendship is not ok! He's not my friend, he's a guy that did not respect our friendship, hit on me and was willing to engage me in some kind of affair where I would certainly get hurt and possibly lose my husband and family. Then after that, he embarrassed me, hurt me and caused me tonot talk to him for almost a year.
I have never told him how I felt nor have I ever expressed any intentions of anything other than friendship.
Instead of sticking to it, I feel guilty and start being friends with him! Now how dumb is that??
I am not even in any kind of relationship with this guy and I am still tormented by it. I cannot even imagine what all of you feel like! It makes me feel silly and very immature.
I am an impulsive person and I tend to be very selfish and like to ride the waves of my emotions but something kept me in check 2 years ago and I thank the pain gods for sparing me what you all are going through.

Hi NMC
Well it does sound like you have managed to dodge a pretty big bullet. Well done on that. That being said, sounds to me that if he can get some sort of emotional response from you, then there must at least be some sort of attraction/low level EA going on at some level.
Yes, you probably should bolt the door shut, go NC
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Hi NMC
Yep stay away!!! I cant believe I much I am grieving now- its been so much worse than I thought. Im taking that as a sign that I'll be so much happier in due course (but Im yet to really believe that).
Dont have an A- its just not worth it. Superficial highs and extreme lows!
Iggyx