"I thought I would share an idea too - When I went no contact August 10 - I started putting $1 into a jar every day that I was NC - my idea is by the time I've been through this for a year, I'll have $365 to do something amazing for myself - a trip, clothes, spa - I have no idea what yet.... but everytime I see it I rmember I am doing this for me."
I am sooo starting that money jar today - that is a fabulous way to tangibly mark the progress ending an affair has. I know that I am growing/changing on the inside, but watching that $ gather will be amazing.
Another bonus to ending, is how much darn money I save when it is not being spent on x AP aka: cheap-o-la. I should put 2$/day!
TU.
LC/NC since April 14, 2010
"I can be changed by what happens to me. But I refuse to be reduced by it." — Maya Angelou
TU - it really is amazing to see all that you save - sometimes I throw in extra (when I have it) to represent long-distance calls, airfare, hotels $, etc.
well many of us here are PhDs or grad students right? what we need to do is invent an interdisciplinary conference and then invite the non-grad students to be "speakers". that way we can get it all paid for by our schools or some special interest organization.
or at least, that would be nice. an EAS meet up would actually be super cool, but dont we all live in totally different places?
i live in new york city, and therefore i believe everybody should come here, because its totally awesome :) unfortunhately in order to make that feasible we need to be putting $20s in our money jars instead of $1s!!
lolly, on a separate note, i'm so impressed by your hutzpah during this transition. you seem to be embracing the change as best as you can and turning your life around. i firmly believe that change is always good, at first it can be hard, but it always ends up with something good. :)
What an excellent and creative idea to start earning money for each day of NC! I never had to spend that much on XAP, but I did loan him some money a few months ago (STUPID) and now I just have to count that one as a loss... But I will GAIN so much more for sticking with NC!! :) I am in Iowa, but I have never been to NY, and would love a trip! ;)
"I thought I would share an idea too - When I went no contact August 10 - I started putting $1 into a jar every day that I was NC - my idea is by the time I've been through this for a year, I'll have $365 to do something amazing for myself - a trip, clothes, spa - I have no idea what yet.... but everytime I see it I rmember I am doing this for me."
Garfy
NC since 13 September 2010 and trying to feel great...
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Lolly!
I am sooo starting that money jar today - that is a fabulous way to tangibly mark the progress ending an affair has. I know that I am growing/changing on the inside, but watching that $ gather will be amazing.
Another bonus to ending, is how much darn money I save when it is not being spent on x AP aka: cheap-o-la. I should put 2$/day!
TU.
LC/NC since April 14, 2010
"I can be changed by what happens to me. But I refuse to be reduced by it."
— Maya Angelou
"I can be changed by what happens to me. But I refuse to be reduced by it."
— Maya Angelou
We should all start a money jar and then use it to meet up at a swanky spa somewhere for an EAS convention :)
Bodhi
TU - it really is amazing to see all that you save - sometimes I throw in extra (when I have it) to represent long-distance calls, airfare, hotels $, etc.
EAS convention .... is that tax deductible?
tahiti would be half way.....
or
New Choices, New Chapter,
New Challenges,
well many of us here are PhDs or grad students right? what we need to do is invent an interdisciplinary conference and then invite the non-grad students to be "speakers". that way we can get it all paid for by our schools or some special interest organization.
or at least, that would be nice. an EAS meet up would actually be super cool, but dont we all live in totally different places?
i live in new york city, and therefore i believe everybody should come here, because its totally awesome :) unfortunhately in order to make that feasible we need to be putting $20s in our money jars instead of $1s!!
lolly, on a separate note, i'm so impressed by your hutzpah during this transition. you seem to be embracing the change as best as you can and turning your life around. i firmly believe that change is always good, at first it can be hard, but it always ends up with something good. :)
Exi - you aren't too far from me - I'm in GA so at least I'm on right coast even if I am south.
Im in NY and Washington over Christmas. Im up for an EAS drink!!
What an excellent and creative idea to start earning money for each day of NC! I never had to spend that much on XAP, but I did loan him some money a few months ago (STUPID) and now I just have to count that one as a loss... But I will GAIN so much more for sticking with NC!! :)
I am in Iowa, but I have never been to NY, and would love a trip! ;)
Heartsofsix :)