Possibly offending....use caution

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Possibly offending....use caution
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Mon, 02-28-2005 - 12:51pm

Why on Earth can't people just keep their mouths shut when they have no idea what we are going through. I hope I do not offend any of you with this post, I'm just fed up.

First, my neighbor says if I go to church that God will heal me. OK! I'm spiritual but not religious. I believe there is a higher being, but when I look at the teachings of God, well....I'm sorry yall, I just don't get it. To me listening to a man or woman stand up and yell or preach what THEY think the bible is teaching is not for me. When I am ready, I will pick it up and read it myself and determine from there what to believe. I just don't understand why a Baptist church isn't welcoming to Catholics. Isn't it the same God. These are rhetorical questions, because I grew up with a Grandfather that was a Baptist preacher, my family is devoted and dedicated to the church...I am not. To me that does NOT make me a bad or evil person. I do good, I don't steal, lie, kill, cheat, etc.... but to my neighbor I'm living in hell because I haven't taken God to my heart. I mean...some people believe in Sciencetology, or Hinduism, or a totally different God. I'm at a loss, but am more angry at my idiot neighbor than anything. I tried to explain that I'm sick, I have two illness, one could kill me and the other could possibly make me kill myself, I am not going to die, not from these two diseases. I may burn in Hell, but it isn't because I'm being punished for being sick. I could have went right through them yesterday.

I'm a good citizen, honest, trustworthy, kind, compassionate, sometimes postal, but still......I'm a good hearted person.

Secondly, when people tell us how to react to situations. Oh that ticks me totally off. Don't let it get to you is the stupidest statement I've ever heard, or you can fight it, you have no reason to be upset, you have no reason to be crying. Buck up I had it worse in my thirties. OMG.....Why can't people just shut up! I hear I understand one moment and the next the same person is saying something wrong to me which will make me cry. I have not found a way to fight bp and if I could don't think I wouldn't do it. I HATE feeling this way and people think we can just not think of it, or brush it off. Yeah, I feel like asking them if they have any illnesses so I can tell them to straighten up and stop trying to find pity. I just can't discuss anything with anyone other than you all and sometimes I just feel like I do nothing but complain.

I don't know.....I'm having a very BAD day. I'm working...I better go.

I hope I did NOT offend anyone. I would NEVER want to upset any of you.
Carla

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Registered: 01-06-2005
Wed, 03-02-2005 - 8:53pm

This may be off the beaten path but i experienced something similar when DH and i were trying to get preggers. we went to so many clinics and they all said that i didnt have a chance in hell of getting pregnant. well we learned to live with this it still hurts but i can live with it. there are so many people who ask when we are gonna have a family and i explain to them that i cant have children. well here they come with you need to pray to god. theres something that your not doing right or i knew a friend whos doc. told her she could NEVER have kids and now she has 2!! go see this guy, hes supposed to be great! i try and tell these people that my egg supply is depleted and no matter how great a doc is he can make a baby without any eggs!! dah? then i hear they told my girlfriend that too and she still got pregnant!! the only thing that keeps me from killing them is an episode of CSI. they mean well but my thing is if you don't know the whole story. keep your opinions and your mouth shut! i try not to go totally off cause when i blow, i BLOW lol!

let it in one ear and out the other. just go uh-huh! your right! oh really? i'll get right on that! and just keep it movin!

valerie

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Thu, 03-03-2005 - 9:08pm

you made me realize i might actually be offending people inadvertantly. i always say god bless at the end of my posts. i am not a huge fan of organized religion myself. i do believe there is someone up there who knows what they are doing though. i do not believe that you can be healed by praying, or repenting. i believe that you can gain the strength to deal with the fact that you are not healed that way .maybe you ask for forgiveness so as not to have to carry the guilt. sometimes i just don't think i have it in me to go on. that is when i pray and i am still here after all. i supose one could argue that it is not that god actually gives you strength when you pray, but the thought that you are not dealing with it alone gives you the strength. i honestly don't know which is true. nor do i care. for me it works. that is all i need to know. i saw a movie once where a father told his daugter that heaven and the angels was something people made up so they wouldn't have to be sad anymore when a loved one died. the little girl replied "so what's wrong with that". i believe that if whatever you believe helps you through the rough spots then more power to you. i also believe that eventually you will end up where you belong. you will become who you were meant to become. you can call it karma, devine providance, luck...whatever. the act of beleiveing in something helps me to be strong. whether what i believe in acctually exists is really beside the point.
to the second part of this post, i would like to say if i hear one more person say...cheer up, get over it, suck it up...ect...ect...i am going to go totally postal.certainly. i'll just tell my brain to produce and recieve the correct chemicals. no problem. right on top of that. honestly if they only knew how incredibly ignorant they sound.
in short, i hope this dosen't offend anyone, and it will be taken in the spirit in witch it is meant.... god bless to you all. lord{or whoever you want to call it} knows we could all use it now and then.

ps. just as an interesting tid bit, my husband chooses to believe that there is a god, and wheather you call him/her buda, ala,... whatever, we are all praying to the same guy/ girl.

 


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Thu, 03-03-2005 - 9:59pm

believe it or not, im not a church goer myself and neither is my DH. we have what we call a combo of different religions. i am so disenfranchised with mass religion to me its all phony religious zealots teaching their inturputation of the bible. whos to say that they are right? some people use church (mostly women) as a crutch. they do whatever the pastor, minister or priests tell them to do following blindly like sheep. they make no discissions on their own and evry thing else is blasphamy! i believe you carry church with you wherever you go. we all have a very personal relationship with our god and its nobodys business but or own and it between you and god.

tell all those others to pray for themselves and let god handle anything that pretains to you and what your going thru.

gods comfort may not make you comfortable, but it does give you hope that tomorrow will be a better day.

if i offended you by saying god bless, it was not meant that way. i just want all my BP sisters to know that there is a higher power and you don't need any street corner phrophet to tell you that!

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Sat, 03-05-2005 - 3:40pm

I just can't pass up the opportunity to share my philosophy on religion.

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Tue, 03-08-2005 - 2:37pm

Thank you Morgain. that is exactly what i mean by God bless, and i hope everyone i say it to will take it as such. so, God bless and take care.

Becky

 


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