Crazy in love with ap

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Registered: 11-20-2006
Crazy in love with ap
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Wed, 09-08-2010 - 5:27pm

Hello people . Well I didn't know where else to turn. I've known about this forum for a while and don't know why I didn't think to post. I've been going crazy. Well first a little background.. Married for 5 yrs. Been with dh longer then that. We just had our first baby this yr. I'm happy as can be with baby. Dh and I are something else. Of course I love him. But people change. He doesn't appricate me or see how hard I'm working for us. I love him to death but it's hard when I'm always doing things wrong In. His eyes. Anyhow... Dh doesn't go to family functions with me. He's a great dad . That he is but anyhow baby and me went to a family party. An old family friend was there. Our family knows his Fam but we hadn't seen eachother for atleast 20 yrs. We saw eachother. Exchaned numbers and facebook. This was in June. Since that day until now we have texted/ talked every single day. It was innocent at first but we opened up to eachother and he just understands me in everyway. He has met dh and undertands my situation. We get along so well and it's just amazing. We didn't get physical until a couple weeks ago. And that just makes everything even more stronger. We have talked aboutit and have said and do say I love you because we mean it . I love him . It's more thenthe physical partthat wasn't even I'm the picture til recent. But now I don't k ow what to do. His best friend knows everything. He's like family him but I have noone to talk to about this. His friend said I can talk to him if I ever need to vent. Which I did today. I don't mind if he tells ap cause I know he will but it's nothing he doesn't already know. But ap and I talked. I told him if he was to ever find a girl to go for it because it's hypracritacle (spelling is off sorry) of me to say no ur mine when I'm married and have someone u know . So recent he told me straight up that he met a girl and she's into him. He told me before and again that I'm his number one. And I know he means it. But when he told me about the other girl I turned possessive and I guess it's what made me realize that I really do love him. He talked to me and I told him what I felt. We r good about it now. I see him often and talk to him always too.

He's been sick for the past week and I was going crazy not being able to do anything for him . I was going crazy not being able to see him or talk to him until now (his phone was broken) but he was calling from his friends phone or house phone. Anyhow I'm at a point where i don't know what to do. I'm crazy I'm love with him and he's so sweet and understanding. He went all out with my favorite flowers and has cooked for me. It's amazing. I love just being with him. But it's hard. I'm glad I can come here and vent without judgment. Ughhh I miss him!!

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Registered: 03-29-2010
Wed, 09-08-2010 - 9:46pm

Welcome to MAS fairyprincess!

It sounds like a challenging A, with a single guy. I'm also involved with a single guy. I know that he has every right to find someone else, and as much as I dread that, I also hope for it, for HIM. It's a tough emotional position to be in!

This is a great place to vent and share without judgment. Sometimes we have a little "tough love" but mainly it's to help people to accept that what we all have "is what it is", and it's not like a relationship between two single people, and it never will be. Also that most A's have an "expiration date". Unless married people leave their spouses, there is no "happily ever after", and there will be an end.

Looking forward to seeing more from you!

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Registered: 11-20-2006
Thu, 09-09-2010 - 12:42am
Thank u. Yes it's hard. I try not to think about the end :( he's told me he would wait for me and want to always be in my life even if I do choose dh at the end. We just try not to think of that I guess. But reality it will most likely be different. I have my day off tomorrow and noone knows so I will see him tomorrow. I can't wait. :) how do you do it when it gets hard for you ? Do u see ur ap alot?
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Registered: 08-24-2010
Thu, 09-09-2010 - 8:46am

fairyprincess, I am new here as well but I have found that being able to come here and put into words my feelings to someone who doesn't know or won't judge me in a negative way and that there are others in the exact same situation or situations that are similar

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Registered: 03-30-2010
Thu, 09-09-2010 - 11:41am

Hi fairyprincess,



I know all too well the possessive feelings I get if I know he's with another woman. My AP is single as well, he says right now I'm the only one in the picture but its so hard knowing that eventually he'll find another who's not attached, that he'll fall for and I can't say anything because that's what he deserves & of course because I'm married. I to want him to find someone that can give him what I can't but I know its going to hurt and I'm not looking forward to that moment. Sometimes I've tried ending it just so I don't have to feel that but either way its inevitable.



I'm taking this A one day at a time. What will be, will be. Wishing you all the best and remain strong this affair stuff isn't for the weak minded.



 


Much peace & Love,


Rayne


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Registered: 09-09-2010
Thu, 09-09-2010 - 8:58pm
Well I'll chime in here too. Im MW with a single man, too. It does suck thinking that he will find someone single one day. I try not to think of that and he constantly reassures me that wont happen because ,in his mind, he isnt single. So I have to trust that.