Close call!

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Registered: 12-18-2008
Close call!
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Thu, 09-09-2010 - 9:26am

After all the time I've been having A's you'd think I'd be better at this by now! This morning while H was in the shower I was texting with AP about our date later. A while later when I came out of the bathroom, I about had a heart attack because my cell phone was sitting next to the stove with the text right there in plain sight. H was eating breakfast. I picked up the phone and put it away and my heart was racing and I thought I am so dead! But pretty soon I could see that he must not have noticed. He couldn't have seen it and stayed calm like that. He went off to work and I'm still trying to calm down.

So this is a wake up call to all of us in A land that we have to be careful! Keep the cell phone out of sight, delete the emails, shut down the computer before you walk away from it - being in an A is drama enough without getting CAUGHT also. (BTDT)

What other steps do you take to be careful and stay safe? I need all the reminders I can get right now.....

-jana

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Registered: 03-29-2010
In reply to: janamich67
Thu, 09-09-2010 - 9:44am

Honestly - we all know those rules, all have them memorized etc. But the truth is, we're human, and humans forget, have a spacey moment, whatever. We leave the computer and the screen saver comes on and we forget what we left up. We forget we put our phones down. Short of putting up sticky notes all over (and wouldn't that be a dead give-away, lol) there is no way we will always remember to do everything we should do.

You were lucky! I've been lucky too. I came home from work once and found that I'd left my e-mail open on the computer. I worked that evening and H had come home after I left. He did use the computer but he generally opens another window and he apparently didn't fish around in my e-mail. I couldn't believe I did that. HOW could I do that?? I castigated myself all night. But I'm human, I forget things, apparently I got ready for work and by the time I walked by the computer the screen saver was up and I thought I had already signed out of everything and erased history. I was probably running late. I didn't check. A little thing like that is all it takes to ruin everyone's life.

But how can we honestly say we will NEVER forget? Since that scare I haven't forgotten, but I'm human, and humans can forget even vitally important things sometimes.

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Registered: 09-01-2010
In reply to: janamich67
Thu, 09-09-2010 - 9:46am

Yes! Be careful.



There should be a setting on the phone that automatically locks the phone and the only way to access it is thru a password. So, if you put your phone down and forget, it will automatically lock after a minute.



Now, the excuse I use as to why my phone is locked? Well..I throw it in my purse and if it is unlocked the buttons get pressed and I end up accidently calling people..once even called 911 so I make sure it is locked. (thats the reason i give)



Also, at night..delete browsing history on your computer. Go to tools and select delete browsing history. All passwords remembered will be wiped out.



Hope that helps.

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Registered: 03-30-2010
In reply to: janamich67
Thu, 09-09-2010 - 11:53am

Hi Janamich,



I'm so paranoid that I don't EVER use my home computer. I don't text while in my H presence and if I ever do should I put my cell down &

 


Much peace & Love,


Rayne


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Registered: 05-15-2008
In reply to: janamich67
Thu, 09-09-2010 - 12:34pm
I did the same thing w/ my old phone. AP texts me most evenings or IM online.
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Registered: 05-31-2010
In reply to: janamich67
Thu, 09-09-2010 - 12:53pm

Oy! That is scary. Luckily for me I haven't had a close calls yet. For those that are worried about browsing history, etc, Safari has something called private browsing. I put then on going to my email and coming to this site. When private browsing is on it remembers nothing, but it won't wipe my history clean. I didn't want H getting suspicious on why the history on my computer was constantly wiped clean. So I put on private browsing and the rest of my history is still there. I love this feature. It doesn't save any passwords, log in info, or where you were or what you did. LOVE IT!

I don't have a lock on my phone because that would be suspicious, but I do delete everything in a matter of minutes being done. Emails are permanently deleted and texts get deleted when we are done with a conversation.

I don't really do anything else to be safe. If it really came down to it I could justify talking to AP if I HAD to, I'd rather not go down that road. Our way works for us. We have a code we use when we are texting for the first time that day. I'm taking a few classes a semester towards my masters so he will simply ask a question about class. Like what our homework was or something like that. At this point we are pretty aware of "good" and "bad" times we can text each other. If it is off hours - we email.

This is probably bad, but I do have his number saved in my phone. As a girls name! LOL! So if AP would text me about class his name would come up as Betty (not really, but you get the idea). It cracks me up some days!

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Registered: 05-03-2010
In reply to: janamich67
Thu, 09-09-2010 - 1:35pm
Since my d-day, there's no way I'd contact AP in any way, shape or form while H was at home.

anotherseyes

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Registered: 09-09-2010
In reply to: janamich67
Thu, 09-09-2010 - 8:46pm
Heres my 2 cents.