AP finally responded

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AP finally responded
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Sat, 09-11-2010 - 10:32pm

I had never heard from AP about what I told him a few weekends ago (that I love him).

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Sun, 09-12-2010 - 12:20am

Hmmm...I'm not sure what to tell you.

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Sun, 09-12-2010 - 12:55am

Jane - I interpret this email as him saying that he can't say these things to you...but he is thinking them. Why else say all of that? Why not just say...I don't love you...I just enjoy our friendship and having the great additional benefits that go with it.

I think that he is saying that he can't say all of these things...but he's saying them to you by saying he can't...LOL! Hope that makes sense.

It sounds as though his emotions have gotten involved too...and that it is not something that he intended to happen. He doesn't want to think about waking up with you every morning but he does. He doesn't want to think about how much he thinks about you but he does.



I don't know where you go from here...but the fact that he responded and said the things he did...without actually saying them...means that his feelings are definitely strong for you too.

Good Luck with going forward...keep us posted!

LouLou
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Sun, 09-12-2010 - 8:45am

I agree with Loulou to a degree (and where have you been Loulou??) I think he means that he can't say those things, but might sometimes be thinking them. However, I also think that he's sensed you pulling away and he's trying to reel you back in. He knows that if he never discussed what you said (and I have a feeling that if things just went on "as usual" and you didn't pull away that he would have never addressed it) it was going to be over so this e-mail is his answer and he hopes that you will never bring it up again, because, after all, he's said that he CAN'T say those things, so end of discussion!

Do you have four kids between the both of you? If so then the "six reasons" are both of your spouses and kids? He's saying he's never leaving, right there, and he doesn't want to be the reason you leave either. Therefore, no reason to discuss feelings, in his mind.

That's how I see it, but if you want the real reasoning, you'll have to ask him.

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Sun, 09-12-2010 - 9:14am

When he says

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Sun, 09-12-2010 - 9:20am

Hey, all!



Thanks for the feedback.

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Registered: 03-30-2010
Mon, 09-13-2010 - 10:28am

Hi Jane,



My interpretation of his email: I think he can't say all of the above because then it will make it all true. If its true then he knows it further complicates things and that's something he doesn't want to deal with now or ever. Perhaps he doesn't want to give you any false hopes and get more emotionally involved then he already is. It doesn't mean that he doesn't feel them but for someone to say those things that are so deep well...that's a whole other level. A level that he doesn't want to go to.



Just my 2cents. Hope all is well with you.



 


Much peace & Love,


Rayne


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Registered: 05-03-2010
Mon, 09-13-2010 - 10:50am

I agree with lexi and loulou: it's not that he doesn't necessarily feel those things, just that he can't because of your collective families.

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