booty call?

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Registered: 09-10-2010
booty call?
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Sun, 09-12-2010 - 11:41am

Hi everyone,

I have been lurking here for quite a while now, and I am in the process of ending an A ... without ever getting back in it ! (because this has happened many, many times). There are so many
questions and I guess most questions are totally useless, but what
I truly don't understand is the following:

When it is obvious to a woman that the AP just wants her for sex/ sexual pleasures/ excitement, *why* does the AP get mad when she says this out loud? I care a whole lot about my AP, but it is so hurtful to realize that HE only wants me for my body...

And WHY would a man want sex with someone else when he has a great marriage (so he says) and when his sex life is good too ?! (his words, not mine)

And are there more women out there who realize that they are nothing but a booty call to their AP's? Did you ever tell him how it feels to you?

Greetings,
Itstime2010

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Registered: 07-11-2010
In reply to: itstime2010
Sun, 09-12-2010 - 3:18pm
If his marriage and there sex life where great then why is he risking what he calls great?
I can say this is a subject that has been brought up with both my MM.
1 seems to do his best to try not to make me feel like a booty call, his marriage was not good before we started. But we have a dating relationship you could say we go out for lunch or dinner a lot where he does not live near where we work and he lives pretty far away from me. He say things like we can go out for lunch, lunch only. Because we do normally end up in bed after.
2 can get away more often but we only hang out at my house and he spends the night once or twice a month. But every time he comes over we end up having sex.
I guess it all comes down to how you feel, yes there are times I feel like a booty call but then again there are times I have made them feel like a booty call.
They both are in different stages of there marriage #1 is at the end trying to get out, while #2 says he loves his wife she is a great woman. I think the way I look at it I do my best to not need them in my life unless I can have them in my life full time which would mean they are single.
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Registered: 03-29-2010
In reply to: itstime2010
Sun, 09-12-2010 - 3:23pm

Men seem to have the ability to enjoy more than one sexual relationship even if they are in love with their wives and have what they consider a great marriage. Women seem to need for something to be missing to take that step, and they are more emotional in their A's as a rule anyway.

Some women don't mind being a booty call, if they can keep everything "just physical". Very rare for women but it does happen. Some don't like it, many try to make themselves believe that's not what it is.

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Registered: 12-18-2008
In reply to: itstime2010
Mon, 09-13-2010 - 7:51am

With A's the potential for disaster is always there. Booty-call A's, as opposed to A's of the heart (and I've had both kinds), tend to be less dangerous I think. Just grownups having take it or leave it fun without the emotions driving us to take bigger and bigger risks. Just my .02.

-jana

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Registered: 08-19-2010
In reply to: itstime2010
Mon, 09-13-2010 - 3:57pm

I thought my AP and I were just physical, well, that is how it started and that is what we pretty much agreed upon at the start. For me now, I have feelings for him - no doubt about that. One night after doing the deed, I said - I hate feeling like maybe I am a sex toy. I am M as is he. He got pissed. He sat up, turned on the light and said proclaiming "you are not a sex toy to me" and continued on how I was a good friend, someone he could trust and talk to, etc.. He said we didnt have to have sex if that was the way I felt. I want more from him I know I cant give and he cant give me so I keep it/him around for what is is (sex) but also missing that person when we are not together, talking on the phone about regular life things and just being friends...with benefits...however long that will last.