Squirrels?? Really??

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Squirrels?? Really??
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Tue, 09-14-2010 - 9:28am

Hi all,



I want to thank Lexi and nevereasy for responding to my previous post...basically my S AP is very sporadic in contact....and is apprehensive about seeing me as I am contemplating seperation - but still living with H....you can see what I wrote in my post "At a loss here...male help appreciated". He texted last Friday night

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Tue, 09-14-2010 - 9:37am
wow, that would definitely drive me nuts. I know that in these types of relationships, we need to give the benefit of the doubt, like you said, maybe his phone is dead, etc, but when it becomes a pattern , like it has with your AP, I would probably begin to think I'd had enough. He has had ample time to respond to your text. You will have to decide if this is the way you want things to be or if enough is enough. You could try talking to him the next time you get together or whenever you can, and tell him how he always leaves you hanging and that it bothers you and you would appreciate it if he would answer you within a reasonable amount of time. The relationship should
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Registered: 08-24-2010
Tue, 09-14-2010 - 9:47am
I agree, if this was the first time, then yeah things happen with not being able to respond in a reasonable amount of time but this is a pattern from day 1.
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Tue, 09-14-2010 - 10:45am

Daisy and Tangled -



Thank you for your input. I can't do this, I am so upset and stressed all the time. I don't know if I should tell him I've given up or what...not sure what I would want the outcome to be of that. I can't keep up this wishy-washy stuff....I'm a wreck. I think I've come to the realization he just isn't into it, and that's what hurts the most. I ruined it by having sex too soon...and it was not good sex - drunk sloppy sex. I wish he'd give me another chance - but don't want to beg either. I'm very sad. :(

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Tue, 09-14-2010 - 10:52am
Dont beg. Its not a good look. You shouldnt have to beg anyway. If you were on the same page, you would know it, just as you know when you're not. I am sorry you are feeling hurt and going through this. When you find someone who IS on the same page as you, it is wonderful. Wishing you the best. *hugs*
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Registered: 08-19-2010
Tue, 09-14-2010 - 12:06pm

Sorry. :( The inconsistant contact stuff drives me insane. I know my AP's schedule pretty much and know what day is off limits to hear from him, etc.. but maybe you all can have a talk? Tough sometimes though, to judge where is is coming from or if having the talk...is overstepping boundaries. Good luck and hope he has contacted ya since the post.

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Tue, 09-14-2010 - 4:02pm

I'm going to be brutally honest here, and I hope you don't take this the wrong way.

anotherseyes

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Tue, 09-14-2010 - 8:11pm
Yup, I totally agree. :-)

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Registered: 11-16-2009
Tue, 09-14-2010 - 8:33pm
I empathize with your situation. I usually just browse the posts but wanted to say I am MW with a SG. Mine drives me completely insane with his lack of response as well although acts like he is very interested and cant wait to see me when I am in town (then he backs away). I feel it is so rude to not give a simple reply and I try to be reasonable and figure he's got things to do, but really how long does a simple answer take? I too really care for him but I am starting to get annoyed with his lack of simple answers and we only communicate by IM and half the time he doesnt answer me. he doesn't think he is being rude or mean. I am not ready to let go because I feel right now he is my only sanity. There is a great website though called baggageclaim that is excellent and all about the unavailable man. I think you'd get a lot out of it. Whether he is scared or not, to me, a simple answer isn't a lot to ask for! I've had three talks with my guy because of issues arising and he gets a little better each time but i think he really just wants to do what he wants to do and have no one tell him or ask any different. Good luck!
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Wed, 09-15-2010 - 8:23am

THANK YOU SO MUCH EVERYONE FOR YOUR RESPONSES!



I know you all are right, hopefully I get