How Do you Really Know? Afog or Not?
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How Do you Really Know? Afog or Not?
| Fri, 09-17-2010 - 3:34pm |
Since getting involved in this EA, I find myself wanting out of my M more and more. Not because I think I will end up with EAP, but so I can have the chance to find a relationship with someone that is more fulfilling than what I have with H. What I don't know is if I will be happier without H in my life. I know I am not happy with my M now and that is why I am in this EAP. I guess that is why people separate before D to see if it is truly what they want. Anyone here with experience with that? I know I felt this way before my EA, but it seems to be pushing me further in that direction because I have realized through my EA what I am missing in my current R.

My advice is to NOT make any decision regarding your M in the midst of A.Your decision might very well be fogged.
So nice to "see" you Jane! :)
As usual you hit the nail on the head-yes my marriage has serious issues in that department. I guess for me once I didn't feel emotionally connected to H, I didn't want anything physical with him either and he just accepted it for what it was. It seems pretty selfless to me for him to do that, put what I want before his needs. No he is not or has had an A-to religious for that. That part was never really great to begin with and he is very close minded about trying new things. You're right though, because of EAP I don't even want to try with H anymore to fix it. Not sure how my luck will be if EAP and I ever get it going-I hope he is not a dud if you know what I mean...:)I can't handle the no sex anymore-now that the kids are off my boobs! :) Since I met EAP it's all I think about-with him, not H. I just know that if this goes anywhere and it is good, I will want more and that scares me too because the likelihood of that ever happening is very small. In a way it is a relief it is just an EA because I don't know if I could handle more, even though I want more. I'm rambling.
How are you doing?