Has anyone ended up with their AP ?
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Has anyone ended up with their AP ?
| Fri, 09-17-2010 - 4:20pm |
I have read all about the rebound relationship.... it has happend to me and I am worried. My husband moved out a yr ago after I could no longer be with him due to emotional abuse. I had an affair going on for 6 months before I told him to leave. I only had the strength because I met a wonderful man, he left his wife , divorced and so did I. We have been going strong for 1 1/2 yrs, weekends only due to distance . We talk several times a day, email ,text and look forward to every weekend together. We both have children so there is little time alone together where before while we had the affair we were always alone because we had " them " to be with the kids, now neither one takes them often. He had custody of his kids. I am 43 yrs old and worried , I have this feeling in my gut that wont go away as time passes. I see things about him that remind me of my ex, nothing bad just guy things that use to irritate me with my ex. I dont feel irritated just seeing him as a " real " guy in real life makes me wonder if he is the one for me. I took no time to heal , no time to date, but I LOVE this man . I know I do Im must worried that once the newness wears off maybe alot of men are alike in a sense. I left hubby of 20 yrs because of this , he has met and fallen in love, he is a creep no doubt but at least he had lots of time alone before a relationship, Im jealous because I didnt get that and I wished I had met this man under different circumstances. Has anyone ever ended up living with their ap

I think I understand what you mean, but NO ONE can stay a prince in shining armor forever. Real life does barge in, and you get to see all the little irritating things that are part and parcel of anyone - even ourselves! Remember that - they get to see your little irritating qualities too LOL. If there is love, then that overshadows the irritations. If it wasn't really love, but a fantasy of love with a "non existent person" that you kind of made up - based on him but not him after all - then it's best to find out now. You say you love him, that's what is important if it is true.
There are a few couples on IVillage who started out in affairs - most are on the "after the affair" board. You might want to check over there and ask them what they went through when they saw the "real person" that their AP was, after the affair.
Welcome to MAS! Hope to see you posting here more too!
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