It is hard to tell you two do have a past. The only way you will know what he is feeling is to ask him. It may not be a easy to have "the talk" but it is something you need to do if you want to know his true feelings. Granted when in a A emotions and needs can feel like they change daily at times. It is a roller coaster, we all enjoy some part of the ride or we would not do it. I hate the fear of having the talk but it is always best to have every ones cards on the table that way you know where you both stand.
Thank you so much for the advice. That is exactly what I needed to hear....clearly you're experienced with such matters. I still feel very intensely for him but since I haven't gotten an email or any indication that he misses me since we last met two days ago I think I need to get over it.
He just likes cake. I like cake too...I wish I could be more like a man about it sometimes!
Your A actually sounds better than most around here devora, if that's any help. He wines and dines you at a resort and you must have a room for having sex - all shows that he values you somewhat. As for his feelings - we women usually "bond" with someone that we have good sex with - it's a real chemical thing that our bodies do to us. That's why it's so hard for women to have a strictly sexual relationship. It's also why we get addicted - REALLY physically addicted, not just psychologically, we get physically addicted to the chemicals that our body creates when we're having sex.
So far, your ap is not showing any evidence of the "pulling away" that a lot of guys go through - which is also a good thing.
As has been said, have a talk with him and ask him how he feels. I think he likes you, but you should hear it from him.
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You've got a lot of choices. If getting out of bed in the morning is a chore and you're not smiling on a regular basis, try another choice. ~Steven D. Woodhull
I hate the fear of having the talk but it is always best to have every ones cards on the table that way you know where you both stand.
Hi Devora,
MM here in an A.
I think you should feel fortunate that your paths have crossed again, and you have a special person in your life now.
Thank you so much for the advice. That is exactly what I needed to hear....clearly you're experienced with such matters. I still feel very intensely for him but since I haven't gotten an email or any indication that he misses me since we last met two days ago I think I need to get over it.
He just likes cake. I like cake too...I wish I could be more like a man about it sometimes!
Your A actually sounds better than most around here devora, if that's any help. He wines and dines you at a resort and you must have a room for having sex - all shows that he values you somewhat. As for his feelings - we women usually "bond" with someone that we have good sex with - it's a real chemical thing that our bodies do to us. That's why it's so hard for women to have a strictly sexual relationship. It's also why we get addicted - REALLY physically addicted, not just psychologically, we get physically addicted to the chemicals that our body creates when we're having sex.
So far, your ap is not showing any evidence of the "pulling away" that a lot of guys go through - which is also a good thing.
As has been said, have a talk with him and ask him how he feels. I think he likes you, but you should hear it from him.
You've got a lot of choices. If getting out of bed in the morning is a chore and you're not smiling on a regular basis, try another choice. ~Steven D. Woodhull
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